DD started Yr7 at a grammar school 3 weeks ago. All seemed to be going well initially, despite the fact she didn't know anyone there. She settled in well and made new friends quickly, so we were delighted.
However, her primary school gave virtually NO homework at all and she's finding it very hard to adjust. The homework load isn't even that bad - half an hour to 45 minutes per night, (some nights there's none at all). To be frank, she is undoubtedly lazy - she was one of the 'clever ones' at primary, and she hardly needed to put any effort in at all. I spent ages over the summer explaining to her how different secondary would be, how she'd really need to apply herself, but I fear it all fell on deaf ears.
Today she's had an almighty weep because she's pretty sure she flunked a test in science, (she hasn't even had her marks yet!). Their homework was just to go over what they'd been taught in class in preparation for said test. I encouraged her, sat with her, offered to test her but she was insistent that she 'knew it'. Now we've got tears and declarations of hatred for the school, plus moaning that her friends who went to the comp have 'NO homework!' (Yeah, right!).
Part of me feels sad for her and wants to gather her up and tell her it's not her fault; the other part is thinking, well what did you expect if you didn't learn it properly? I know it's a learning curve but if anyone can reassure me this is all completely normal I'd appreciate it 
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Ps. She passed the 11+ comfortably, not a top score or anything, but perfectly respectable, so I'm quite sure the work isn't too hard for her.