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LeafyPark · 26/08/2020 09:29

I hope someone can offer some words of reassurance I am.in a completely tizzy about this. DD is currently at an all through girls independent. The school is wonderful and she is very happy. We had always hoped she would stay until end of GCSEs. However due to the current situation there is simply no more money and we will have to pull her out at the end of this year, year 6. A fair few do leave at the end of y6 but tend to go onto grammars.

Dd is bright but I am not holding out for an 11 plus place, our nearest two are super selective and the rest are out of counry, she would have to do very well indeed plus it would be a long journey. The ironic thing is we pulled her out of state in y2 to avoid this 11 plus tutor race. I dont want to put more pressure on her.

So that leaves us with one option really. We are not in catchment for the outstanding comp people here Rave about , the one DD will realistically gets very mixed reviews. It's been renamed as it had a poor reputation a while ago and seems to be on the up but a quick browse of the local facebook site shows there have been issues with bullying

However I need to put a positive spin on this for DD and just hope she will be ok. I am kicking myself for sending her private in the first place as I feel I have given her a taste of it, she is happy and thriving and now I have to pull her out. Bursary or Scholarahip not really an option and we have dc2 to consider who luckily is still in pre school .

Thinking positively im hoping she will enjoy the new opportunities, less pressure, we will be able to afford some nice trips and her love of sport drama etc she has from attending the independent will stand her in very good stead .

I would just massively appreciate any positive stories from those who have made the move possibly for similar reasons and it's gone well . I also need to work on my brave face front to avoid pitying looks / comments from the other parents at the independent.

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CherryPavlova · 26/08/2020 10:34

We went the other way but later on - we didn't move them because we were unhappy with state schooling. My eldest went all the way through a comprehensive and came out with very good academic results, a host of fabulous experiences and lifelong friends.

I wouldn't say it was less pressure either - they had high expectations of bright children just as much as the public school, possibly more so. On the whole, teachers are often better qualified in state schools and certainly subject to more scrutiny.
What are you worried about from a state school? Most are not dens of iniquity, drugs and knife crime. The differences were social with my eldest having exposure to a wider spectrum of abilities and needs - which stood her in very good stead for a career in medicine. My others undoubtedly got better holidays from friends and it was easier to work in an environment with smaller classes and less disruption but their grades were no better and they were not noticeably happier - but the parties were grander. My children dined out on fairly inventive state school stories for a good few months, as the perception of state was so inaccurate and so poor.
She'll be fine but you might want to try and get her to meet up with a few state school pupils outside of school, so she doesn't think they are all gun wielding monsters - local youth theatre or county youth orchestra maybe.

JoJoSM2 · 26/08/2020 10:22

Are you anywhere near me? We’ve got a similar set up with a re-named school that’s now on the up, grammars and some excellent non selective schools.

Have you had a look on the local authority’s website to see if you might have a chance of getting into a more desirable comp? I know near me catchments used to be very tight but it’s been much better this year.

Alternatively, accept whichever place you’re offered and go on waiting lists at the schools you’d prefer. Or move house to a more desirable catchment.

And even if you stick with the re/named school, it could work out well if it’s on the up. It’s also worth remembering that with students in sets, the more academically minded ones just have their own crowd and different sets work at different levels.

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