I think that as parents we will have to take a slightly longer term view and also be a bit pragmatic in our thinking.
I'd imagine schools are shitting themselves about the fees at the moment and burdars are rapidly calculating various scenarios.
If we withhold fees, some schools might have to lay some teachers off or send them off on furlough. This means they cannot work at all. Lots of staff are probably already ill or will become ill, so exactly what impact will that have on the online teaching experience our children receive.
If we withhold fees, some smaller schools might go under and there won't be a school in September or in January. Other schools might struggle on but run bigger classes or have less resources meaning the future quality of the education we pay for isn't as good.
I agree that it's hard to pay for something which isn't quite what we signed up for. We've talked about it and agreed that we will pay (haven't had the bill yet ) as we want the school to be there as close as it can be to how it was when we left it, when our kids return. We can afford to pay. We would rather not pay £7k for a term of online learning, but we know the school needs to pay its teachers and we expect they will be telling us how they are saving on costs where they can.
If we couldn't afford to pay (as opposed to not wanting to pay) we would approach the school for a temporary bursary or some kind of payment plan. We know they do that for families in hardship. I would expect them to be sympathetic to that request and that they will expect more requests for that. I would think they can cope with that, especially if people will pay when they can. I think it would be much harder to deal with people who could afford to pay just refusing.
I agree that the way schools phrase their fee letters is important at this point. Being pompous or demanding doesn't help and acknowledging the difficulty does. However, I expect quite a lot of schools will find their letters annoy parents in the circumstances. The Q is whether people then really feel they shouldn't pay.
And personally, I think we have to give them a bit more time to get the home learning thing sorted out. Just 8 days ago, the children were in school having normal lessons. 2 days later a new regime had started. It's hardly surprising if it's not instantly perfect is it? I'm prepared to bear with them a bit and give them the benefit of the doubt for a while and try and take a longer term view. If I'd lost my job I might feel a bit differently though.