In a couple of weeks, we will be offered a superselective grammar for our DD. The back-up is the local independent which doesn't get as high results at GCSE (no where near). We didn't do much prep with DD as she is already at the independent. We didn't expect her to get into the superselective grammar. She is naturally very intelligent and musical, self challenges and asks for extra homework (at the moment, she stupidly does this in front of the cooler/sportier girls and then gets made fun of - which she then agonises about. She also stays in at lunch to make her work perfect etc). For some reason, she just doesn't identify with the typical type of girl who goes to the grammar. She has been programmed to think they aren't cool as she is so desperate to be cool/accepted herself. The irony! So if you have a similar daughter, what kind of school did you find your DD flourished in? Or will she inevitably just have to go through this phase wherever she goes until she finds and accepts herself? What do you all think? Especially if you have a DD like mine or were like this yourself. Unfortunately I have a totally different personality type and it is difficult for me to relate. I just got on with things, didn't care much about what others thought so ironically was always considered cool at school, despite doing OK academically.