Forward-thinking schools allowing hair dye

Mumsnet is about 'sisterhood'? Shit, I'm in the wrong place. As are all the male posters on here. If I could see my navel I might gaze into it but I lost contact circa 2004...

He does like the challenge social norms, but mainly by wearing pyjamas all day at weekends and watching YouTube.

This is very similar to my own preferred way of challenging social norms, and I’m a 32 year old mother
See also: eating cereal for dinner. Smash the system!

Jesus.

DS2 is 11. He has never dyed his hair or been recognised in public. He is part of a 'band' of mates but does not lead it and they don't play instruments or sing, just put crap music on our Alexa. He does like the challenge social norms, but mainly by wearing pyjamas all day at weekends and watching YouTube.

Should I be worried? I thought he was developing normally but obviously not.

To everyone who thinks this isn’t real - I grew up around North London and now live in Bristol...both are full of parents with the most incredibly creative and wonderful and special children called Leaf and Phoenix who simply MUST be allowed to express themselves at all times

Last year he would perform/busk in various London locations and the recognition he would later get surprised us all. We must have been stopped randomly half a dozen or so times from people in the street

They were probably concerned about a 10 year old hanging around the streets of London

While I’m all in favour of teenagers being allowed to dye their hair whatever colour they want (I had purple hair back in 2001 before it was cool ), you sound utterly insufferable and wildly pretentious. Dial it back a bit?

Even independent schools with 13+ entry will have pretested a 11 yo by now. If this is for real, consider Brit school for year 10.

Is he the new Messiah?
Your original post talks about him Wanting to dye his hair, then later you talk about him having dyed hair already. Which is It?

I'm amazed that you don't home school such a special child. After all, what can any school do for him? If he's going to be a rock star, he won't need a formal education anyway will he 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wonder what yoonique name this musical messiah has??

@LolaSmiles no I don't think the hair dye was the reason I'd had a lucky escape either, I guess my comment didn't make that clear enough

"a young creative who is challenging social norms and thinking deeply about the world and his place in it"

🙄

Trying to be helpful although I think you're nuts. It may make more sense to repost your thread asking for advice on creative and musical schools rather than hair colour requirements.

For a private day school try Hampton Court House, it runs an extensive bus service including Shepherds Bush, Wandsworth etc. and is a genuinely alternative school, no uniform, call your teacher Dave etc. HCH is very musical. Otherwise Artsed in Chiswick is very competitive at 11+ but have vacancies later and for a state school you should have looked in to Brit school but again I suspect that it is too late.

DS1 attended a very traditional school with draconian hair policing but it somehow managed to produce musicians who formed the bands Munford & Sons, Bastille and Noah & The Whale.

It's blue isn't it?

I think 'sisterhood' and enlightened conversation can overall be better found elsewhere.

I think you'll have a fair time trying to find conversation enlightened enough for you OP.

OP, you could try the music schools, wear what they like, hair what they like. Go to school in a onesie if you want.
He'll need to pass auditions, but shouldn't be a problem if he's leading bands at 11, they'll snap him up.

present himself as he saw himself - a young creative who is challenging social norms and thinking deeply about the world and his place in it.

He sounds like a total nightmare. Honestly OP, catch yourself on and just listen to yourself, and how pretentious you sound. HE IS ELEVEN.

harper30
I don't think the hair dye is the reason you've had an escape, more the obvious attitude that their child is more unique and creative and talented than almost anyone else.
We've all met them, although amusingly in my experience the students of those parents are middle to good at best, and the parents of the most talented and exceptional students are reserved and unassuming.

My son is 11 and there's a child in his class with ridiculous hair too. Not coloured, but all shaved up one side and a huge long fringe over his eyes like the New Romantics back in the day.

He gets recognised too - in a "look, there's the boy with the stupid hair" type way.

And as for "he leads a punk/new wave band" - he's 11.

I'm glad he won't be coming to the comp I teach at, we don't allow hair dye, and you, as a parent, sound like an absolute nightmare.

@harper30
What a disappointing sisterhood we all are 🤣🤣
Think OP better stop smoking 😉😉

Bahahahahaha that most recent OP comment has made me piss myself with laughter.

Gosh, as long as he can dye his hair, fuck the GCSE's
And the award for most Bizarre parenting, here's your badge x

Or he could do what I do and wait for the summer holidays to go all out.

Riiiiggghhht 👍🏻

Meh, dyes shouldn't be banned in the first place in secondary imo, but using it as deciding factor is OTT. I got told off for red highlights in Year 8, but not for the dark plum colour in Year 9 or the blue-black in Year 10. And plenty of girls dyed their hair red or burgundy by Year 10/11. As long as your hair wasn't bright pink or green etc then they softened up rules later years.