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peonypower · 18/07/2019 10:10

My son goes into y6 next year, and we need to think more seriously about secondary schools. He will be a full boarder (military family).

I have a daughter too and she's going to a coed boarding school (2 years older than him). My first instinct was to get them at same school as it makes life easier logistically.

He's decided he wants to apply for a boys school as his best friend is likely going there. He's certainly academically capable enough to get in. But I'm not convinced by single sex education. What are the advantages of it? Some of the other parents at the children's (CO-Ed) prep school think boys do better in a "more competitive" boys only environment. My son is certainly spurred on by competition. But is that true, that boys schools focus more on competition?

Does anyone have a boy who loved the idea of no yucky girls at age 10 and is bitterly regretting it once they turned 14/15? Suspect this could happen

Also, is single sex any kind of preparation for the real world?

My husband and I both coed boarded, so no experience of single sex ourselves

Any thoughts welcome

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happygardening · 18/07/2019 17:36

My DS boarded at SS from 13 prior to that he went to a coed prep. I’ve worked at coed senior boarding schools. Maybe the atmosphere is slightly different I can’t explain it but it did feel a little different. I know some teachers think that boys are more likely to do things like singing arty subjects like history of art art in SS. I’m not sure it’s more competitive in SS as even in coed in most boarding schools boarding houses are SS so plenty of opportunities for being competitive.
I also think that for me logistics would win every time unless you’re living very close to one or preferably both schools (which if you’re a military family I guess you won’t be) . It’s impossible to be in two parents evening, two carol concerts etc at the same time and schools seem to meet together at the beginning of every academic year and say why don’t we all have the yr 9 parents evening on the 5th of November that will work well for our parents!

peonypower · 18/07/2019 17:05

I'm inclined to agree with you on both points - though don't want to put my wishes ahead of his necessarily!
Thank you

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ksb76 · 18/07/2019 15:01

Nothing to help you about single sex boys schools but as the parent of one of each, both full boarding at the same co-ed school, I have to say that just the logistics of having them both at the same school would win out for me. We are also a pretty close family, having moved around a lot and having them together, able to keep an eye out for one another makes me feel a whole lot better about them full boarding. My son is definitely spurred on competitively by both the boys and girls who are ahead of him.

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