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Shockingly bad year 10 report

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Fizzalltheway · 10/07/2019 23:40

So I knew it was going to be bad- but shocked at just how bad it is ! Behaviour is ok but every subject is way below the year average (selective school) I mean every subject ! All say he’s not engaged, has the potential but is very disorganised. We met with headmaster before these reports came out as we were concerned and he has been asked to get up to speed over the summer including taking in revision notes and past papers to prove he’s done it. I can see the battle over the coming weeks ... how do you persuade someone that lip service is no longer going to cut it and real action by then is required without nagging and causing a negative energy for rest of the household.please tell me it’s possible to turn a grade 2 into a 6 in the next year ! I have been trying unsuccessfully since year 7 to get him to start trying - I feel like a failure but equally can’t see what else I can do

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Fizzalltheway · 11/07/2019 07:11

Noblegiraffe thankfully he got 5s in English and maths but that doesn’t help the rest. We took him to a sixth form college instead of his school where he’ll need 7s to stay thinking it would shock him into action but unfortunately he really liked it and sees it as an easier alternative ! Thing I think he wants to do it but just doesn’t realise times tovking away. Looking for ways to inspire him without nagging !! Maybe seeing it as a game will help and possibly even cash incentives for getting good revision done !

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RowingMermaid · 11/07/2019 07:08

Totally agree with noble as applications for sixth form will show him he cannot do A levels with those grades.

From a young age we have pointed out that neither myself or Dh lives with our parents and so at some stage our children will have to move out and pay for everything themselves. We reminded them of this when they had new computer games, or clothes, the weekly food shop, holidays etc.

My year 11 boy has recently asked me to show him graduate job salaries and take home pay, plus local housing costs to see what that would look like. To children a minimum wage job sounds like a hell of a lot of money but realistically this is only a lot of money if you live at home.

To his credit my eldest was just an average achiever but he has worked his backside off to get (hopefully) the top grades for GCSE, this meant revising when his mates were still gaming. He did his own timetable for summer of year 10 etc and got me to test him. He was productive with his time.

Your son has to see that you will not fund him forever and the choices he makes now can impact his life.

jellybeanteaparty · 11/07/2019 00:06

One of my DC found it helpful to think of the effort and stuff required to tick all the boxes to get the grades as "playing the game" They didn't see the point or have the interest to put in effort but realised to reach the next step they had to play the game.

noblegiraffe · 10/07/2019 23:59

You can lead a horse to water...

So he’s on grade 2s. Time to sit him down and come up with a plan for college. He won’t be continuing to sixth form. He’ll be resitting maths and/or English.

You need him to come up with a serious plan of action for when he fails his GCSEs because he will be making his applications shortly.

Maybe seeing the consequences in black and white might make him rethink.

If he’s disorganised, he will probably need your help in organising his time and revision over the summer.

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