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would you send your child to a comp where none of their friends are going?

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WildAngel · 12/06/2019 11:59

DD is in year 5 and we've started think about where to send her for secondary school. The feeder school is a SuperSchool and we moved DS out of there within the first 6 months of it opening due to poor teaching and not being happy with how they dealt with issues.
We'd like to send her to the same school he's in now (he'll have finished when she starts)as we feel its a better school. However, ALL of her friends are going to the superschool. She had a meltdown last night about losing her friends, she's an over-thinker and this could worry her for some time.
Would you send her to the school of our choice and hope she makes friends and settles in? or would you let her go with her friends and hope the problems were "teething" issues?
Thanks for views xx

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eddiemairswife · 12/06/2019 12:37

We hear this a lot at appeals; that a child has been allocated a school that none of their friends are going to, but funnily this doesn't seem to apply if the child has been allocated the grammar school.

Starlight456 · 12/06/2019 12:37

You will have one more set of open evenings before you apply .

We went in year 5 and 6. I thought that the school that would suit my Ds most was not his favourite. The second time he liked the school that I thought was his best fit.

RedSkyLastNight · 12/06/2019 12:25

Have you looked at the SuperSchool again recently? If your son has nearly finished secondary school, sounds like the issues were from a few years ago, plus of course your DD may have an entirely different experience.

Whilst I don't think not moving up with friends is an issue (and in the case of my DD she moved up with loads of friends and then was timetabled into a whole bunch of different groups, so she never saw any of them!) if your DD is dead set against going to the school I'd want a compelling reason to go/not go there. Have you/DD seen both schools recently? I'd go and visit first, before you make any decisions.

summerflower2 · 12/06/2019 12:10

If there is huge difference between the two schools , you may take your DD to visit both school and try to persuade her? We all know they will make new friends in secondary school. However, if DC is not happy about it and you force her to go, then the result won't be good.

If the difference is not that big, then I would like DD go to the school her friends go. There are a few years passed, it must be difference to the time your DS was in. Also, different children may find school experience different.

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