DS wants to repeat Year 13

@EvilTwins omg check out OP's latest thread. You will not believe this!!

User20, you asked why I think you have issues, I want to respond but I want to be perfectly clear this is not an attack. I think we are all on the same page that parenting isn’t always easy and sometimes parents need support too, but here goes:
1: Given all the operational guidelines as to why your son will not be accepted back your main concern is “it’s not fair”
Although you don’t know the individual circumstances surrounding others that have repeated you are basing your sole argument on other students situations . A more productive response would be to make yourself aware of how the system works and fully evaluate your options. It’s not fair doesn’t help you.
2: By your own admission he has MH/ SEN /Aspergers etc but you will not support him in attending a school meeting because you think he is old enough. Most parents would attend with their child period, no excuses.
3 You appear to not be aware of where he is on the spectrum and how it may have impacted his learning which is unusual because these are not new issues and as the parent you would normally have been working together with the school.
4: The supporting documents would ordinarily be filed together or at least all in one place to hand, not “ all over the house”
3: Your lack of knowledge of his attainment is not involved parenting. Parents generally keep school reports, certificates etc filed /stored together.
4: Subject choices would have been discussed, however informal, as would subjects being dropped etc. Not everyone has communicative children but it’s usual to engage at some level so as the parent you know what subjects your child has chosen and why & what they have dropped and when.
Genuinely I hope you take on board some of what others with similar experience have advised so that your son can fulfill his potential.

A young person is required to be invited to their AR, and they should be consulted about their views prior to the meeting.

Unfortunately, the Navy don't allow people with autism to sign up. As I said a job would be unwise if he isn't ready and may re-enter education because the EHCP (if that's what it is) will cease to be maintained.

What were the AS results - 3 Ds, 2 Ds and an A or 2 Ds and a C?

Well the best way that he might be granted consideration is on the grounds of his disabilities and whether the school has supported him sufficiently. Here his EHCP and other paperwork relating to his SN would be very useful - as would parental support to help him organise and make his case to the school.

Is his father on the scene?

I think that you need to have agreed with him what the "plan B" would look like and how he will achieve it. What is going to do if the school say no?

Do you not think you should try to find the paperwork? Or contact the LA?

No one is expecting you to "remember a whole 7 years worth of information." But, you should know if your DC has an EHCP or if it hasn't been transferred yet - in which case you should complain to the LA.

And yes, if you have attended all AR you should be aware what must have been discussed recently regarding what provision your DS needs come September. If he is to start a new setting in September Section I should have already been amended.

Your DS should have been given the opportunity to voice his views during the AR. Was he?

Why don't you respond to some of the posters offering advice?

@user20

None of us are perfect parents. Some of us are parents that have found ourselves in very similar positions with children with similar disabilities to those of your son. We have posted some of the actions that we took/considered and what helped our own children in the process. However you have not acknowledged any of these posts so It's unclear whether you want this type of help and advice.

It looks like your son will be leaving school in the coming few weeks. If the school won't allow a resit year - what is the big plan? What do you and your son see him doing in September?

And I’m not being mean suggesting your son doesn’t have a hope in hell because of his ability- it’s because of the lack of support you are willing to give

User20- no one is perfect and parenting is a constant challenge but looking at your posting history you do appear to have issues. No amount of concern, advice, help offered here is helping you as you fail to grasp the most basic advice. Your previous posts are insightful as to your thought processing.

Your son is going to need effective help, though, not just wishful thinking.

You don't mention your DH's role in this - maybe he should go to a meeting if one is set up.

'Arrested learning' is the wrong phrase, User20, but honestly, your posts sound a bit chaotic to me (and in a very familiar sort of way -- I too struggle to remember the outcome of meetings I've sat through and concentrated in, lose paperwork etc).

Well, yes.

I only came across the concept of poor executive functioning (short term memory, organization skills, planning things, adapting, self-motivating etc) during the diagnostic process for DS, and unfortunately realised it also describes me to a T -- these things can run in families, so I wouldn't be surprised if you have something of the same barrier to keeping on top of the admin, User20?

Yes, I know you mentioned you have a degree, career etc - me too. Still really struggle with some 'life' things though.

If you look at user20 history of posts quite possibly she also has some sort of arrested learning. Previous posts re her DS was asking about his weight/ being fat but no idea of his height other than based on a Christmas tree. Then asking about her dog eating fish food.
Genuinely her son hasn’t a hope in hell. I know this is harsh but so many of you are offering such kind and thoughtful advice but I sincerely think it’s wasted effort.

Oh lord.

Look, User20, you do need to support him with that sort of admin. He can't (yet) do it, and he is no longer the responsibility of the school. You NEED a file of evidence containing his diagnosis letters, medical letters, school history and Annual Reviews. He is going to need it.

I don't want to be harsh. I have every sympathy, actually, because the bloody SEN paperwork is awful to keep on top of, and I have whacking great boxes of scratty letters that need to be hauled out and photocopied and submitted to some random person (who generally returns it grumbling that there was 'insufficient evidence of diagnosis X', but hey).