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I can't get DD to school

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TheNightIsForever · 27/02/2019 08:28

DD (11). Every couple of weeks she 'doesn't feel well' and nothing I do or say can get her to school. It changes days every couple of months. After Christmas it was every other Tuesday. Now it seems its going to be Wednesday.

We've tried to pinpoint if it's a specific lesson she's avoiding, she says there's no bullying or any other reason just the fact that she doesn't feel well.

She has pastoral support once a week in case there is anything troubling her. I've sat her down to try chatting to see if there's anything causing her to not want to go. She's been to the doctors and they say she's not ill. I've given her a notebook just in case she prefers to write to me rather than talking. Said if it's due to PE I can get her excused from it rather than missing whole days but she does seem to like PE.
I've tried everything to get her to go, screaming and shouting, reasoning, bribing etc even the threat of me possibly going to prison doesn't phase her at all.

I'm struggling with what to do next. She's currently laid in bed feigning a tummy ache and will stay up there all day now on and off.

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Mumof1andacat · 27/02/2019 08:36

Contact the school and ask for a meeting, gp appointment and see if you can get a referral to camhs for support

TheNightIsForever · 27/02/2019 08:34

School have never tried to help me get her there. I just ring and leave a message to say she's refusing 😔 I'm honestly at a loss at the minute.

I asked her dad (we're separated) if he could have a chat with her but that just ended up with him telling me I'm a crap parent if I can't even get her to school

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NC4Now · 27/02/2019 08:31

Are you working with school? It needs to be a combined effort. It’s really hard - my DS is a bit of a school refuser at times (ASD) and I always have to contact someone at school to help me get him in.