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Hostile initial contact with a Catholic secondary school

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jennylamb1 · 17/01/2019 10:11

We are looking at prospective secondary schools for our DS. He has additional needs and our local catchment secondaries are very poor (bullying, challenging behaviour etc), and we are pretty determined not to place our child there, given that he is emotionally vulnerable, and we feel that they would not provide supportive environments. We are Christians and are interested in a Catholic school, which is very popular, and which based on last year's oversubscription data we would have gained a place at given that we are Christian. I called them to arrange a visit, and the receptionist was extraordinarily hostile. She asked if we were Catholic and if our son had been baptised, and seemed virtually to be putting us through a school admission process before she would allow us a visit. The school is partly funded by the local council, into which I pay my council tax, so surely I am entitled to visit a school which our son may go to in the area? The school lauds itself as 'inclusive' on it's website, but is seemed highly exclusive and even discriminatory to non-Catholics on the phone. Is this even allowed? This is not withstanding the fact that my child is on the SEND register and according to the SEND code of practice 2014, schools should be working with parents and other professionals in order to best support those with disabilities in education. Have others found Catholic schools unwelcoming in this way?

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BubblesBuddy · 17/01/2019 13:57

It would be quite difficult to show every parent round that would like an individual visit. I agree that you should go to the open day and take it from there if you are still interested. Some Catholic schools require a Catholic alliegence not just broadly Christian.

You cannot assume a religious school doesn’t have bullying.

MariaNovella · 17/01/2019 12:42

While I understand where you are coming from, it is really quite reasonable of schools to (a) check you meet their minimum threshold admissions criteria (b) invite you to a general meeting for prospective parents as a starting point.

jennylamb1 · 17/01/2019 12:39

Thanks for the replies, no he hasn't got an EHCP, as his needs are not severe enough. He has an individual education plan for social/communication issues and is on the SEND school register. I hoped that the school would be supportive and nurturing as it as a reputation for excellent pastoral care which is what attracted me to it. I know that school receptionists can be abrupt and curt as they are so overloaded with work. She was trying to get me to attend a parents' evening (they're not until October), however I do find a visit whilst the school is in action much more informative. For autistic children it helps to judge the sensory environment of the school, if it's loud and overwhelming, or quiet and ordered. if there are quiet areas or activities for unstructured times like lunch-time etc. I'd like to see if it would be the right place for him ultimately.

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Ivegotthree · 17/01/2019 11:50

Sounds like just not a nice person. My experience of Catholic schools and additional needs over several years is quite the reverse.

purpleme12 · 17/01/2019 10:28

She might just be an unfriendly not nice person. This happens too. This would put my off though. I always go by my impressions, not what I hear of the school

Bitchinabonnet · 17/01/2019 10:25

Does your child have an EHCP ? If so then in terms of admissions criteria your child would actually come above Catholic (non EHCP) children x

jennylamb1 · 17/01/2019 10:21

Sure, I wouldn't even be considering it unless we were Christian, which last year would have made us eligible for a place. I am a little concerned that this first contact shows something of the ethos of the place. We are happy within the Christian faith, however although we've been together for 20 years as a couple, we are not married, so effectively I'm an unmarried mother. I worked in a Catholic primary school where my having a different surname from my child seemed to be a problem for them. In 2019 I presumed that society had moved past that.

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beachyhead · 17/01/2019 10:14

Church schools have specific admissions policies and she was checking if you would even be eligible to get a place, presumably.

Look up their statistics and see how their admissions works.

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