Starting secondary support thread 2

Hope he gets better soon Witchend

Hope your DS is feeling better soon Dobbins and that sounds like a good report. DD was supposed to do the group presentation today and was asleep this morning as ill so I e-mailed my "professional" version to science teacher as none of others have done any work on it, expect I will be in trouble with DD but happy science teacher. Senco has just sent me cahms forms so added our bit and sent them back. DD woke up for lunch but otherwise pretty dead.

DD has gone down with another migraine so off home today. Last night she said she wouldn't complain if I did her homework then asked me to do their group presentation on chromatography. I did it and she said thanks it looks very professional though did you just download it? I said no and she said I think I need to make this less professional.

DS has now managed to go from excelling in Nov to developing in Dec to emerging now in French. DH is French but DS seems to be test refusing in French. He seems only to be able to focus on so many subjects and rest get abandoned - both DD and DS got top of year in their maths exams and DS seems to score well in geography, science and RE.

Tried to help DS by doing some geography homework but got told its no use, argh, apparently as I won't have included enough jokes - I have 2 in but you need 10. 4 days to half term here, hoping no illnesses as at 91% for both, DD is normally 100% every year but migraines have hit her hard.

Not been asked to buy any, I did buy a few as DS missing so much school but none have been opened yet. Both mine attendance is at 91% so am hoping no migraine this month for DD, might hit half term. Only a week until half term!

Well done to your DD Hersetta, she sounds very talented.

DH keeps making the mistake of asking DS if he wants a haircut to which the answer is always no I am warm and snuggly under my blanket.

I would imagine in summer long hair is needed to prevent sunburn. DS normally gives in when both his eyes are completely covered, we are nearly there.

DS seemed OK with double science but no biology - yuck! Trouble is that isn't an option these days rather annoyingly as he's good at science but only likes chemistry and physics. Here if they do triple they have to do less PE and told him that and he decided he would rather do PE than extra science.

DD has done well at the Maths in the past but has been exceptionally lazy since moving to comprehensive in September not even completing all the homework. In year 6 her team won the regional maths competition and in year 7 she got the highest result in her grammar school in the maths challenge though not enough for the Olympiad just kangaroo. This year she said 20 questions were super easy and 5 were impossible but she's very black and white. DS is exactly the same its either only a complete idiot couldn't do that (anything he can do) or impossible(anything he can't). DD has said the other kids have been teasing her about being not clever - she's very clever but tries to hide it and is currently very lazy. It seems to have bothered her she said could I buy her Mathletics but she will probably only use it for one day before deciding she doesn't care about being called stupid. I said I don't really want to pay for a year for one day's use but fine if she will use it so we are now on a day's free trial though the studying lasted 10 minutes before "the wifi made it impossible" (phone messages work fine though )

DS is haircut refusing still, argh - he needed it cut start of year though so cold and windy here its not helping.

Hope your DS is starting to feel better now Dobbins and there's been a break in grumpiness, nothing like having more than one child kick off at the same time.

Just redid ENA forms and DH just taking them over. According to DD both school and DH physically move him so changed that to people physically move him and added detail of at home and primary. DD did year 11 maths challenge yesterday, she's in y8 but said she did 20/25 questions and thinks most were right. It's a shame they didn't give us more notice or I could have taught her how to do harder questions once I had relearnt myself 😂 DS had his maths results back, he came top in his class which is top set but think there are two top sets and got excelling. He was then asking me what GCSEs he could take which was encouraging though seemed horrified by triple science though science he is rated as surpassing for achievement but inadequate in classwork, behaviour, homework and organisation so don't think he's teacher's favourite! He says the ratings are a mystery as he's fine. He was up in night with cold but insisted he was going to school and says he might get English result today. DD is getting headaches again for a week but milder, will get eyes checked.

Got DS' latest school report - had very low expectations but not low enough it seems. Though grades aren't that bad just four other columns of most things being needs improvement on inadequate. However, his organisation skills in drama are outstanding So a future of organising drama awaits!

DD is doing the Intermediate UK Maths challenge tomorrow. Still got to find motivation to change EHA form, have quizzed boys, DH doesn't care much and DS is refusing to talk to school.

Just had DH home - apparently he went to school to bring forms home this morning and the lady appeared to be reading instructions saying he was only allowed to sign forms and not to bring them home. So he refused to sign saying he took instructions only from me.

I told him about form and DH's really upset. Senco is trying to make out its all an innocent mistake but I'm not buying that. I don't think senco thinks like this, think issue is coming from higher up. Senco said we had been very supportive. I said to DH he needs to be very careful if they are complaining about him touching DS though they have a nerve - they call us illegally to come and get him, he won't move and staff have asked DH sometimes to move him. I do wonder if DH needs to protect himself and not move DS but that would mean refusing to collect which is likely to lead to official exclusions and last thing we want is to be excluded from mainstream schools. I don't think they can do much against me - I'm just ill and senco has e-mailed back to say I am very supportive and have all e-mails. He will let me reword EHA but don't know how we move forward from here.

I was wondering about saying we won't collect unless its an official exclusion or they put their request in writing but maybe being a bit evil there . SENDIASS advised us not to collect at all but its difficult as likely to lead to official exclusions and worsening of relations plus he is very distressed. Thanks for your help.