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Help with parental withdrawal

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Sanaa76 · 30/11/2018 20:19

Hi All,
Ashcroft academy has just asked me to draw my DS as they don't feel they can do much for him. I admit DS can very talkative and loud sometimes. DS has never being accused of fighting, being rude or bullying. He's just started year 7 and is a little immature if I'm honest, but I don't believe that makes him a problem child. Ashcroft is aware he has a problem with his ear ( due to this can be quite loud). He is due to have an operation soon. Ashcroft wants me to write a letter to say it is my decision to withdraw DS from school any advise or assistance will be greatly appreciated.

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 30/11/2018 21:53

Why are you even considering this? Your 11 year old is a bit loud? This doesn’t seem like a big deal. How do you feel about the school?

GreenTulips · 30/11/2018 21:49

This gets worse!

Is this a LA school or academy or private?

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Sanaa76 · 30/11/2018 21:35

@ Greentulips,
No I don't want to withdraw DS, the school is trying to bully me in to signing the form or writing the letter. They have gone as far as threatening to put Ds in isolation until the form is signed. My neighbour went the same thing last year.

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GreenTulips · 30/11/2018 21:28

If you wrote that letter you are stuck with home education or funding another place

Do you want him to go?

Do you have it in writing they want you to wothdraw?

Can you email them? Just to make it perfectly clear you are along that I withdraw DS voluntary?

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Sanaa76 · 30/11/2018 21:25

@noblegiraffe,
It's quite a common tactic Ashcroft uses, I personally know of at least 5 other families this has happened. If they're in the right why not exclude him but have asked me to sign a form to say I withdrew DS voluntarily or to write a letter to that effect.

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noblegiraffe · 30/11/2018 20:42

Terrible that the school is trying to get you to withdraw your son to safe the bother of then dealing with him effectively and you should, as above, push back on this.

However, loud and talkative kids are bread and butter to secondary schools and it would seem astonishing that this is the only reason they are asking you to move him. Are you in a bit of denial about the reality of his behaviour? What actions have been taken up to now that have led to this letter?

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Sanaa76 · 30/11/2018 20:38

Thank you @ fleshmarketclose.

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fleshmarketclose · 30/11/2018 20:32

Do not withdraw your child or the LA will have no responsibility for finding him an alternative placement. Tell the school that if they try to off roll him you will expose them and they need to give him the support he needs. If he has a hearing difficulty he has the protection of the Equality Act so remind them of this. Make sure you put this in writing starting by stating "Further to our earlier conversation where you asked that I provided you with a letter withdrawing my son" so that you have a paper trail should you need it.