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Boarding school - is it normal?

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happylilac · 11/11/2018 19:39

DS has just started boarding school. He enjoyed the trial and loved every minute of it. I was particularly worried about food but it sounded nutritious, yummy and frequent enough. DS was very happy and didn't feel hungry at all during the stay.

Now two months have passed, he tells me different stories. He says the cafe opens as frequent as before (5 times a day), but not much food/choice for snacking, and meals aren't filling neither. The dinner is at 6.30 pm and light off is 9.30 pm. He feels hungry through a day and absolutely starving by the time he goes to bed. They serve brunch on Sundays and because brunch means late breakfast/early lunch, pupils are allowed to eat only once, then no food until afternoon tea (again not much food/choice). DS also says he often feels cold during night.

Luckily DS is a weekly boarder so he doesn't starve at weekend. I pack a lot of food and snacks but choice is limited as they have to be something that can last without fridge. I've already asked school if he could have an extra duvet or could bring a blanket from home and am waiting for their reply.

Apparently older DCs told DS that the school doesn't have enough money to cater plenty food. But its higher end of fees compared with other boarding schools doesn't back up the claim. DS thinks it's because of the ongoing massive refurbishing projects so it'll be a temporary situation... The education they provide is superb. So their higher fees could be more to do with maintaining the quality teaching staff?

Does it sound normal? Any thoughts? Also, any advice on food from home would be greatly appreciated! I pack biscuits, cereal bars, bread sticks, brioches, but I need more varieties...

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happylilac · 11/11/2018 21:31

You are right, DS isn't affected by Sunday brunch but I was simply surprised by the limitation and felt sorry for the full boarders. The cafe opens from 9.30 am to noon for brunch but you are allowed to go in only once, so if you had one at 9.30 am there is no food till afternoon tea.

CherryPavlova, you mean food was available through a day without any gap? DS's school's cafe opens 5 times a day and that's it. There is a fridge in the house but there is no privacy and children constantly complain someone took their food/drinks! So DS doesn't want to use it and takes only dry food from home.

There is no change in his apatite when he's at home - in fact he seems to eat less (getting used to the school's diet???), so I don't think it's something to do with growth spurt.

I can't pack any bedding without school's permission due to safety reasons - so they said in their 'what to bring' list. So I am waiting for their reply on this.

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Mishappening · 11/11/2018 21:30

The rule in education is: the more you pay, the less you get.

iwantasofa · 11/11/2018 21:28

You just starved on Sundays. Chapel, boredom, loneliness, hunger and polony are my main memories of Sunday boarding :D

iwantasofa · 11/11/2018 21:26

My boarding school was exactly like this, but that was in the 80s. I thought they'd be better nowadays!

AgathaRaisinDetra · 11/11/2018 21:23

Have you stocked your son's locker full of tuck? Because that is what happens at my DS's school. Just asked DS. He says it's "crisps and chocolate and stuff". In a vair!expensive school. HTH.

happygardening · 11/11/2018 21:23

I’ve worked in boarding schools assuming it’s communual eating rather than in house IME the norm is breakfast a variety of choices hot and cold eat as much as you like in dinning hall, mid morning break at the very least toast spread cereal fresh fruit lunch hot meal a variety of choices from healthy to less healthy unlimited bread/rolls help yourself to salad/soup, minimum meat/protein portion was 6oz, unlimited puddings again from healthy fruit to stodgy e.g choc sponge and custard etc mid afternoon biscuits sometimes doughnuts provided in house and then a hot dimmer as lunch in the evening. Toast with usual spreads and breakfast cereals again available in house all the time and biscuits etc often around 9pm. Food was mass catering so not exactly La Gavroche but for most meals only the most fussy struggled to find something to eat.

CherryPavlova · 11/11/2018 21:12

No, food for ours was freely available with snacks in house and main meals seemingly every hour from a variety of outlets. They then had pizza vans and takeaway options too. Sunday was brunch but it was vast and went on from around 9am until midday.
Ours took favourite food back to school with them as they didn’t always want carbohydrate based breakfast in house or to go for scran. There was a huge fridge for juice, smoothies, berries, yoghurt etc in the house.
They took their own duvets and electric blankets but house was usually very warm.

When our son started military train8ng he was consuming 7,000 + calories a day and losing weight due to the amount of exercise they were doing. It could be your son is doing more sport than previously and isn’t consuming enough to make up for that.

errorofjudgement · 11/11/2018 20:50

If he’s a weekly boarder then surely he’s not there for Sunday brunch?
Also could he be having a growth spurt? Having had 2 DS fo through the teenage years I know there are times that it felt impossible to fill them up! Especially in colder weather and they are out playing sports,
But I agree you should contact the house parents and ask for their take on the food, and I would definitely pack an extra blanket or duvet for his bed.

MyCatWorksForMI5 · 11/11/2018 19:46

Hi think you need to speak to his housemaster and get to the bottom of this- it does not sound normal

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