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Unhappy Daughter in Yr7

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cissyknowsbest56 · 11/10/2018 10:32

Hi I’m just talking aloud but if anyone has any advice I’d be grateful.
My daughter has just joined a girls school that my older daughter goes to.
She’s a funny confident kind smiley shiny kid but she is unrecognisable now.
She has been put in a class with two girls from her primary school..one s well know antagonist and bully.
My daughter started yr 7 determined to make new friends (her best friends are at a local school) and to be her sociable self.
It’s sll gone horribly wrong. The first week it was ‘kick a ginger day’ and being a red head she got stick.
The antagonist from primary school has turned her new found friends against her and they laugh at her and say ‘she needs help’
She spends break times and lunch times on her own and her class don’t talk to her.
She is a shadow of her former self. She cried herself to sleep, her eyes are red raw. She’s so low.
School are saying that they won’t move her class.
I’m seriously worried she’s at the wrong school.
There is a place available at the secondary school where all of her primary school friends are and I’m very tempted to move her. She wants to go.
Advice please.

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MirandaWest · 11/10/2018 11:07

Move her. She isn’t getting a good educational experience at the moment - you can’t do when everything else is horrible.

Please move her as soon as you can

cissyknowsbest56 · 11/10/2018 11:05

Thank you all I’m sorry I don’t know how to reply to you individually I wasn’t expecting so many responses.
I’m worried that she’s missing out on a fantastic educational opportunity if she leaves as it’s a brilliant school but I can’t bare to watch her.
She’s calling me every lunch and break time rather than being on her own.
I’m worried people will say that we are weak to move her so soon and that she should persevere a little longer to give it a chance.
My heart says leave. Let her be happy with her best friends who are kind funny and love her x

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HolesinTheSoles · 11/10/2018 10:59

I agree with PP. Your poor DD. What have the school actually done to support her? The atmosphere sounds toxic. Kick a ginger day?! Is there any reason not to move her to the other school? If so I'd probably do so very quickly. Bullying is devastating and can have a massive impact on self esteem long term. It's great though that your DD has told you what's going on.

Growingboys · 11/10/2018 10:44

Move her asap

EK36 · 11/10/2018 10:44

Ask her teacher to move her to another class. Or just move her to another school. This happened to me too. My parents were worried that the same thing would happen if I changed schools and that I should tough it out. I wagged so many days off school, it affected my school work. When I finally got to change schools a year later, I was so happy. Best thing I ever did. I ended up leaving with brilliant grades. Your daughter should be happy and have friends. Talk to other schools see which have spaces, take her with you to look around and get a feel of which she prefers. All the best for your daughter.

jaguar67 · 11/10/2018 10:43

Have you exhausted all options with current school - gone to HOY, Head Teacher etc.?
Any reservations about other school?
If you've given current school a fair chance to sort this out & they're refusing, I'd say move her PDQ. And once place is confirmed, keep her at home until start date.
Wishing your DD better times ahead - it's great you have options Flowers

Daisy2315 · 11/10/2018 10:41

I would move her to the other school where her primary friends are.

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 11/10/2018 10:38

I changed my DDs school at the beginning of Year 8....it was honestly the best move I could have made. I'd move her

Aventurine · 11/10/2018 10:36

I think you have to move her

SassitudeandSparkle · 11/10/2018 10:36

Move her.

mumblechum0 · 11/10/2018 10:35

Take her out now.

MarshaBradyo · 11/10/2018 10:34

I’d move her quickly before the spaces go, what are your reasons against it?