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Bad first day at secondary school - advice please!

29 replies

minky5 · 04/09/2018 19:17

DS just came in crying, saying that nobody talked to him (he knows quite a few other kids but they seemed to have formed cliques), his friends from primary ignored him and that everyone seems much bigger and more mature than him (he is short for his age).

He is a very sweet and kind hearted boy and it breaks my heart to see him like this. He is normally quite resilient and was really looking forward to starting secondary and was so excited. How can I reassure him? I have told him that everyone is nervous on their first day and that people can be cliquey because they want to feel safe but he is so down.

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pineapple95 · 04/09/2018 19:37

I seriously wouldn't email his tutor - it's week one!

MissMarplesKnitting · 04/09/2018 19:36

Email his form tutor, they might be able to buddy him up. Is he in a year group for or vertical tutoring? That can make a difference.

Definitely look for someone else who's on their own and talk to them.

pineapple95 · 04/09/2018 19:35

Hi, aw your poor lad, it sounds like a bit of a tough start for him. I'm sorry, I don't have much advice to offer really. I just wanted to say that you're obviously being supportive and listening to him, and it's great that he talks to you, so he won't feel like he's dealing with this alone.

It's early yet, but there will be clubs he can join, and his primary school mates will probably change their tune, and at least be civil to him. Did they fall out or anything over the summer?

I'd say give it a couple of weeks to see how things go, as it's only been one day! All the best x

TeenTimesTwo · 04/09/2018 19:33

Tell him other people will be alone too. Look out for them tomorrow and talk to them.

People are doing 'safety in numbers' or 'stick to the friends you know' but actually by being forced to meet new people he might make some great new friends.

If you have email address for his tutor drop them a quick line.