Have we got a starting Secondary School Support thread?

Hope you don't all come down with sickness bug Frayed I always go crazy with anti bacterial stuff when sick bug appears and normally manage to avoid a spread though think the anxiety maybe as bad as the bug!

Aornis Glad things are calmer, long may it continue.

We are having lots of fun and games with school again, being called in for a million and one meetings, argh. However, does look like they might be putting support back in place for DS.

Oh Frayed it does sound like a second opinion and more bloods might be a good idea. Poor lad.
Penguins I hate it when school use the word tantrum for a meltdown :( When are you meeting with the head?

Things have been calmer here. We're following our plan and dd has been in school every day. As far as I can tell there's only been one problem and that down to her phobia that they know about.

Tis FrayedHem but I have changed back to an old name just because I fancied a change but couldn't think of a new one.

Sorry DS was sent home again Penguins. Does sound a bit 2 steps forward/3 steps back. I hope the meeting with the head is positive.

DS2 remains not that well, but not really ill enough to be off either. He didn't do PE on Tuesday but had to clear the equipment away and said it really tired him out, but felt he couldn't go and ask to go home because of how they were on Monday. I'm in two minds whether to say something. I'm thinking I may take him for the blood test on Monday if he's not better over the weekend, then deal with the PE dept for Tuesday when I take him back in.

DS1 has come down with a sickness bug so I'm expecting it to go through everyone here, as DS1 is so rarely sick there's little chance of the others avoiding it.

I expect that’s quite tough for DD as well Penguins . I chose to go to a different secondary from my brother as I was fed up with being X’s little sister and wanted my own identity.

Argh sent DS home again, not sure what happened though DD said he had a massive tantrum and now everyone knows who her brother is. 😳 DH said the Head has asked for a meeting with us.

Sounds frustrating AFrayed

Your poor DS Frayed I would do blood tests now. Will vote for you, didn't know there was a Halloween name change

Not sure what happened with DS - they clearly had just put him back on normal timetable and he got stressed when it was dance and then got himself really worked up and not communicating. I've just ordered an Indian takeaway and chocolate waffles so hopefully that will cheer him up and get some food in him - he's only eaten a tiny bit of bread today. It also cheered up a grumpy DD - she's just over tired though and back to normal now.

What happened with DS Penguins?

DS2 lasted until 11.30am. School rang to say he was saying he felt ill, maybe I could come and talk to him because attendance. I said I'd come and get him, and it seems doing PE was a mistake. DS2 thought it was going to be indoor PE today, but they changed it to outdoor and so it was running around fields etc. They've given me someone to email about DS2's ongoing illness but did seem to think they'd be supportive of DS2 missing PE until he is better.

I'm thinking about ignoring the waiting 2/3 weeks for the blood test and taking him this week and booking to see one of the better GPs for when his results will be back. GP surgery is good but the GP we saw on Friday is the one I would not choose to see. The other 3 are super.

And as a desperate blag, I'm on the shortlist for the MN hallowe'en name change. Any votes most appreciated

Hope he continues to get better Frayed

Well first day back and they are trying to send him home again. DH has gone in, not sure good idea, but been there an hour and still there.

Blood test just had a couple of things slightly above range so GP was not concerned and likely allergy relayed. He said maybe DS2 is so tired because he is growing. Did check his glands (raised) and throat (red and inflamed) but not that bad. I've got another blood test to test a few other things but GP said to leave 2-3 weeks.

So no further forward though obviously it's good he's not got anything very concerning going on.

Hope the doctors can find a solution Frayed and get your DS on the mend, poor boy.

Hope they get group sorted Spider

Last day of half term here, been working from home all week

good luck frayed hopefully something easily treatable.

GF result come back negative but receptionist said results said to see GP so likely something else is showing up. Got an appt later on this afternoon.

cheminotte it's not victim blaming to say you can see why he's being targeted. It would be if you said he deserved to be targeted because of that. I think it's harder when you can see why, because it's hard to talk to them about it as they can't see it.

Spider that sounds good. Hope that goes through.

Frayed ds had something in year 4 which could have been glandular fever type (it was probably just a post viral fatigue type). The school was really supportive and let him do half days etc, even though there was no diagnosis. They could see he was struggling, which helped.

They've accepted no PE so far with no diagnosis or anything, just concerned about the longer term, particularly if result comes back negative. Apparently negative results are common with GF especially with children. He does look unwell and I'm probably being unfair, just thinking back to how PE teachers were at my school. that was a millions years ago though!

I will write a letter for him to go back and contact the HOY regardless of what the results come back as.

I would hope the school will accept PE isn't a great idea atm.

I should bloody hope so. letter to class & pr teacher and followed up with email?

Poor lad - he doesn't sound well at all. GF is a nasty old thing, takes a long long time to get over and the worst thing he can do is to overdo it. The school should definitely be making allowances and letting him off PE at the very least.

cheminotte sorry DS is getting targeted. I know what you mean, DS1 is the other end of social interactions and he ignores everyone who speaks to him. Just totally blanks them. It is very frustrating trying to get him to accept his way of dealing with social interactions is not the best way.

spiderlight what lovely feedback and it sounds like the tutor knows and understands him well already. I hope she's able to get the assessment sorted.

DS2 still isn't right. He's o.k. until he does anything vaguely physical and then he's completely washed out. He went to the cinema then the park for about half an hour after yesterday and he was fit for nothing afterwards and I've just been up to wake him. And he is so tetchy which is understandable.

Going to ring about his results today but I'm at a bit of a loss as to what to do. If it is glandular fever there's no treatment but I would hope the school will accept PE isn't a great idea atm. google tells me gf results can come back negative even when you have it, especially with children.

cheminotte Sorry he's getting that - must be difficult when you can see that his behaviour is contributing, although it doesn't excuse the other kids' reactions. Mine once said to another boy who wasn't wearing a helmet, 'Oh, well - maybe your parents don't love you as much as mine love me'

Parents' evening last night (only with form tutor). She was lovely and very very positive, but genuinely upset and baffled about the set change. She didn't know about the nosebleed during the assessment: as soon as I told her she said 'Well, he shouldn't have been assessed on that!' She's going to push for them to let him sit another assessment after half term. Other than that, he is apparently kind, helpful, participates brilliantly in her classes and her extension club, and she said she loves that he's 'not a sheep' and is proud to have his own interests. Came out very happy indeed :)

TFI half term next week though - I am knackered!

Hope those on half-term enjoy their last day!
Our turn next week.
DS is increasingly getting low level bullying - stupid comments, elbows in the corridor. At the risk of sounding like I’m victim blaming, he doesn’t help himself as he has no clue about social stuff. So will be telling kids off for not wearing their cycle helmets or whatever. I’ve told him he shouldn’t tell tales or tell other kids off for their behaviour unless it’s literally life threatening (and not wearing a helmet isn’t!). I know that’s his Aspergers and we’ve re-started the books on social rules for Aspies. But it’s still incredibly frustrating!

Dd has basic packed lunch of cheese roll and OJ carton so she only needs to use the canteen to top up. It sounds reasonably efficient.

Sorry to hear that Froglet Hope you are feeling better now. Hope its not too much longer until your DD is back with you.

DS just tales packed lunches and buys pizza / cookie on top. I’ve told him he shouldn’t be not eating his sandwich and then buying cookie but I don’t think he’s listening. He was very pleased with himself about 2 weeks ago as he’d found a way to jump the queue in the canteen but that loophole was closed quite quickly as I told him it would be.

Sorry Ive not been on but had nasty d&v bug. Luckily DD is on residential trip-but I'm heartbroken without her. DD eats mainly cheese sandwiches. As do all her friends....