Have we got a starting Secondary School Support thread?

I'm tempted to say he's got a cold if it ever happens again, probably was too honest today. He's rarely done this in the past and primary were fine with it.

Oh dear, I'm sorry, penguin that's hard.

Being cynical their unauthorised absence figures - they did say the more it happens the harder it gets which I know is true but he's ASD new school, new house, no friends, no SENCO support and he coped fine first two days. He's OK here now but I told DH I am not carrying him in screaming and crying. Tomorrow he needs to go but we can sort his homework etc this evening once he's calmer. He's just come out of hiding now DH has gone.

Penguins what do they think that's going to achieve?! Poor lad. I hope you've managed to calm him down now :(

Called school and they were nice but saying its unauthorised absence and they may send someone round and we should send him to school screaming and crying. Not sure that will help anything.

DH has come home and said he has had a call from school saying we have to take him in now. DH told him and he started screaming and crying and locking himself in a room. DH says he's not taking no for an answer but think would be better to wait for tomorrow.

DS didn't moan about going in this morning and I heard back from the SENCO finally who is emailing all his teachers saying he can use his laptop for larger pieces of writing. She is also going to talk to him about the lunchtime room they have for any kids with SN or who are struggling to cope with the crowds/older kids etc at lunchtime. They can eat lunch there and bring a friend if they want to plus there are games etc to keep them busy. I'm hoping he will go as he might make friends there. He has shown no interest so far in getting to know his class mates.

penguins glad DS is feeling a bit better. DS1 (he also has ASD) gets caught in an internal battle between not wanting adjustments but not coping without them. Can take a little time to strike the right balance, a cliche but has truth - it's a marathon not a sprint.

Oop spiderlight. It's easy to just go into autopilot. I hope things are o.k. with his friend and they can come to an agreement that if not there by x time the other will go ahead.

DS2's bus journey is all of about 5 minutes long! It would be nice if they could travel together and friend may get allocated the same bus once his application has been processed.

Mine has a cold as well. Has also caused an upset this morning by somehow failing to meet his friend, who waited ages for him. He left here on time and I reminded him that they were meeting, so I don't know what happened, but friend's mum is not happy. Will text him at break time to clarify and make sure he apologises.

Sorry to hear that penguins

And sorry for all those who had such a stressful morning.

God they are just getting used to things and people are already Interfering? Ffs for you!

Thanks very much. He seems to be better being left alone, he's OK if you talk about not school but not if you talk about school so just leaving him here. Ideally he would go in later but wonder if he's scared he will be in trouble. Have explained its OK but will just let him stay here, think he may need rest more than school today. DH is popping back at lunchtime. Glad school are OK with it.

Your poor boy Penguins :(
Can you give him an hour or so to calm down and get him in for a while at least? Dd often responds if I give her a clear plan when she's melting down.

My dd has a back to school cold. Not great when she is already having to steel herself to go in.

Penguinsnpandas Hope you and DS are ok. Sounds like the school are understanding which is half the battle.

Dropped DS2 off at the bus stop as he was all stressy and dosed up on ibuprofen. His friend's family were texting me trying to convince me DS2 should get the old bus with friend. Wtf. I was getting pretty irritated in the end.

Oh Penguins and for you all. Hope you can get DS to school.

DD went off, still being horrid to me but fine with school. DS is still home became hysterical this morning, suspect its homework though asked him on Thursday and Friday and weekend if he needed any help no. Then 8am today starts trying to do it and can't and starts screaming and crying, he's ASD. Phoned school and they were lovely, said to tell him not to worry about homework and just come in late but still here. He's currently not communicating. Poor DH he had me in tears and DS having tantrum.

Things are a bit better with ds. He went to rugby this am - due to changes with having to combine with other teams just as they started secondary and he's a weak player, he's been finding it difficult - but came back much happier. He's had a couple of wobbles but packed his own bag and asked me to wash his PE kit so taking some control. Fingers crossed!
Frayedhem hope your ds feels better tomorrow and JJJ glad things seem calmer - hats off to you reading to dd - what a lovely mum.

Hope she gets to sleep Julie
Calm here. She's done homework and we had a chat about tomorrow's timetable. Keeping things crossed for assessment tests this week!

I think even those who seem to be breezing through this transition will have some emotional/overwhelmed moments throughout this term. DS has certainly been more emotional than normal. He rarely cries but has done so 3 times this week over various non-school related things but I'm sure it's all linked.

He seems ok to go back tomorrow. I've tried today to encourage him to go to chess club on Tuesday but he's not that interested yet. I know at lunchtimes he is sitting with his sister and her friends (not really talking to them though) or wandering around by himself. It would be great if he could try to make friends but being aspergers it isn't a strong suit for him! I'm going to chase the SENCO tomorrow to see if she can give him a helping hand.

Oh Julie, I hope your DD is OK. It is such a big change for them. They do take it out on those they are most comfortable with, have flowers/gin/chocolate, whatever works my friend!

We badgered DD to do the tiny bits of homework she had today. She lay on the floor, clutching a pen with the book on the floor in front of her and I asked her if she could write neatly in that position. As soon as the words were out of my mouth I was sure I'd done the same thing and heard the same phrase from my own mother. Circle of Liiiiiiife .....

Let's brace for impact for the second week, I hope it goes well.

My DD is also being quite moody, we either have lovely or moody and rude normally directed at me so you have my sympathy.

Oh no:(

DS2 has come down with a stinking cold and is both over-sensitive and tetchy with it. I'm hoping it doesn't see the return of viral-induced wheeze this year. He has PE tomorrow and Tuesday so I'm expecting a lot of faces and stressy text messages.