3 different punishments over a 5 month period for one incident -is this even legal ?

Even if what your daughter said was undisputedly racist she should have had a clear punishment at the time, if it merited external exclusion, that should have happened straight away.

But I'd say too late now, let's see what next year brings.

Can I third, if it is ever necessary, admission's advice, and urge you to take up her kind offer, because it sounds like you have a very complex and difficult history with this teacher and, now, the school, which will be hard to unpick in the sense of proving which behaviour led to the other. It sounds like there has been a complete interpersonal breakdown, but only going from your fragmented posts, which is bound to happen when you are responding in real time to forum posts. If you have a single conversation with @admission, where you can give a more coherent history of the situation, she can guide you properly.

Either way, I hope you can work with the school to create a more positive relationship going forward, because this will benefit your DD hugely, no matter who was at fault in this last year. I sincerely hope that her status as a child of colour is not being used in any way against her - it's awful if that's true.

Do take up Admission’s kind offer, because this situation really does need closer scrutiny.

Could I suggest that you PM me, with relevant facts on what happened 5 months ago and how you ended up with a 5 day external exclusion for the same issue, if you do not believe that you can put any more details in posts. I would also want to know in detail what the email about the 5 day exclusion said.
Then I might be able to offer some advice on what you can and cannot do, based on my experience as Chair of Governors and the fact that I have sat on Independent Review Panels for permanent exclusions 9 times this academic year.

OP your dd was racist and spiteful. To a teacher.
Suck it up.

Have you met with the teacher?

So you have met this teacher? Your OP implies that you have, if both you and other parent were able to say that teacher was this, that or the other.

Not buying this at all

So you made a formal complaint to the school about this teacher’s racist behaviour? What was the outcome of that complaint?

I have read the whole trying to understand what is going on here, but like others I am still confused.

The ethnicity of my child is absolutely relevant, it will always be relevant.

OP, can you please explain this. Do you realise that people of the same ethnicity can still be discriminatory towards each other ?

life just going off your posts at face value and assuming your not adding things or exaggerating them.

It does seem as though your child is getting a rough ride out of all this.

I do agree that your Dd's ethnicity is always relevant.

It sounds as if there are serious issues with the school as a whole.

OK I will be very clear and blunt rather than second guess. I hope I do not offend anyone.

I have 3 times witnessed extreme friction between members of the African-Caribbean community and people who have come here from African countries. In one of these the word tribal almost led to violence. I am well aware of ongoing tension amongst some, a minority, of people from these different groups, and it is of course caused and fuelled by the worst of history.

It is quite ;possible that a child be discriminated against (unconscious bias) for being black / mixed race, yes, it still happens in schools, there was an obvious example shown on screen in the recent Grammar Schools series on Tv. It is also possible for a child to use this form of insult against a teacher (as it sounds as if yours did) , and for a teacher to engage in inter-community prejudice or discrimination.

As others have said, she should not have faced repeated and cumulative punishments for a single incident.

A teacher should NEVER have said those things before this all started and I am amazed that you would not have pursued a formal complaint through every possible channel.

I would start with finding out the school's version of why the repeated punishments occurred but have a statement of everything that has happened which is relevant.

Is it possible for your child to change schools?

But telling someone they are not up to a subject isn't racist. It may be wrong or even vindictive, but not racist .

Is she in Year 10? Or has she taken her GCSEs?

Her school does not constantly monitor this site, you are being deliberately ridiculous now. Give over.

How can the teacher be a family like unit all by herself? This can’t possibly have been the context in which it was used.

I am a bit sceptical about putting the whole issue online as I am aware the DD's school constantly monitors this site

Blimey
No funding issues there, then, if they can afford a full-time MN watcher.

Another possible meaning of 'tribal', non-racist: leading / encouraging her own special group of children, possibly to the exclusion of others in the same class - ?

Just trying to help you out, here.

And what was the result of the complaints you made about the teacher's blatant racism?

Are you really sure? I can't imagine anyone - let alone a teacher - would actually say that to a teenager's (well, anyone's) face. No dad on file? This must apply to many hundreds of pupils.

If a teacher had said anything approaching all this surely you would have raised it straightaway?

Context is everything though OP. So many posters have bothered to explain that.

Brown is just a colour like any other but can also be a horribly racist term.

Until you give a true ana accurate representation of what actually happened, and the backstoryI can't see how anyone can help.