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Mid GCSEs and we have a Prom Nightmare - horrid teenage girls

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blimppy · 27/05/2018 13:53

So DD2 is mid GCSEs having had a horrid year with the Queen Bee type in her friendship group, who I will call B, persistently excluding her and leaving her isolated in the way that only teenage girls can. Things had however seemed better since Easter. DD had made plans with another friend to get ready for Prom together rather than joining her friendship group at B's. This then evolved into DD and friend joining the group at B's later on before Prom. However, B has just told DD that she is only having a smaller group round, by implication not including DD. The friend that DD was going to get ready with is however going to B's now. This leaves DD with no-one and she is distraught. Why are some girls so so horrid? It isn't just B, who has a track record of this sort of behaviour with many girls, but the fact that all of DD's friends are apparently happy to go along with leaving DD out. Not sure why I'm posting really - I just wanted to vent! Any suggestions for making DD feel a bit better welcome!

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blimppy · 27/05/2018 17:23

Thanks for replying and your advice. That sounds spot on to me - it's just so sad seeing her feeling so lonely. She's been trying to decide for months now whether to move to a different sixth form. "B" is moving anyway definitely, which should remove much of the problem, but to be honest DD feels pretty let down by the others. I think this latest upset may confirm DD's view that she would like a fresh start.

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bevelino · 27/05/2018 17:06

OP I feel sad for your dd. It is tempting to try and fix the problem, but the best way of dealing with how she feels is for you to be available for her to vent and acknowledge how she feels.

I have 4 teen dds and they each have had similar toxic friendships as you describe. Just being there for them in a calm and reassuring way helped.