Help m daughter has been banned from proms

Something here doesn't add up.

Reassure your daughter that you are dealing with the situation. She must be calm and focussed on her exams, not distracted by this situation.
Report to police.
Report to Ofsted.
Forget the prom.
Forget what the others are doing.
Concentrate on keeping things calm for your daughter while quietly getting justice for her (ie safeguarding review, support from the school with the police investigation etc).

The teacher even explained that my daughter hitting him was an accident. The school excluded her for 5 days and invited us to a meeting with the board of governors who have now decided that she can't attend the proms,

I'm sorry but this doesn't add up.

If the teacher said it was an accident then why the exclusion?

My guess is that there is a lot more going on in this story.

I'm trying to get clear in my head how and when your daughter hit the teacher? Was it while she was in the headlock? Or in the office or was it after the girls had been separated but your daughter went back to continue the fight?

I agree with others, your focus and energy needs to be on the attack not the prom.

You need to see the incident report the school should have produced. Also your dd should make a statement to the police.

This is extremely serious. Sounds like a lot of safeguarding measures haven't been followed.

You say your daughter is struggling at school now.

I would also take her to your GP and have this anxiety? documented.

You can submit this to the schools exam officer and your DD should be awarded 1-2% extra in her GCSE's.

I have seen this used with anxiety, a car crash, a house fire and even hay fever.

I just think this whole thing is bizarre.

Even the title of the thread.

Help m daughter has been banned from proms

If I were posting the title would probably be

" Help my daughter has been attacked".

I'm not getting it OP.

I appreciate your DD is very upset about the prom and the injustice of it, but I think you are concentrating in the wrong area. Would you really want your DD attending a prom run by a school that have failed to keep her safe? You need to take the school to task over this. Forget the prom for now.

Personally I agree the prom isn't important, but no doubt to your daughter it is. Therefore I would be doing everything I could go have the exclusion lifted

I too wonder if you know the full story.
But actually this does need resolving and I get that the prom is actually important to her, especially because this seems so 'unfair'.

How devastating, I would be getting legal advice, reporting to the police and copying all correspondence to ofsted. Your daughter has been failed on many levels 😞

I completely understand how frustrating & unfair this is, There absolutely must have been a long time feud brewing, I doubt you know the full story.
But, this is not something you should be getting yourself into a state over, the tension & constant discussion of it around your daughter will keep the the rage alive. She needs to be calmed down.
Take a step back, re appeal, report to the police, complain as given by previous posters, but all this, to show your DD you believe in her, you will fight for an apology, & that you will have tried to get justice.
However the Prom is really not a big issue,
Maybe the whole class could boycott it in a gesture of solidarity, but unlikely !

I'm not sure I understand.

I am not minimising the fact that your DD was attacked, but how did she end up hitting a teacher?
If police had been called instead of teaching staff and she ended up hitting an officer then the police would also have taken a dim view.

You need to forget about the prom.

You seem more concerned about your DD missing the prom than being attacked, which seems a little strange.

You have been to the CAB to see if a school can exclude a student from a prom but not the police to report an attack?
You seem more troubled by the school's response to a teacher getting "accidentally" hit than the fact that your DD was attacked.

Priorities seem a little muddled.

There is a lot more to this story. OP - the degree to which you have hyperbolised this makes it very suspicious. Saying that the prom is 'the one thing she's been waiting for' - I'm sorry but that's just not true. You keep saying you are 'scared', 'ashamed', 'heartbroken' - why all the hyperbole? It seems to be more about you than your dd.

Is there more to thi story? Why was this attack launched against the daughter? Is there some sort of feud going on? I agree the prom is the least of your worries _ why has the school failed to protect the child? Was there a history of violence between the attcker and the daughter? More questions than answers here. Ignore the prom it’s overrated anyway take your daughter away somewhere for the weekend. . I hope she’s going to a different 6 th form.

I missed the part about the attacker moving schools. Unless the girl was not a GCSE student-wouldn't happen. Wouldn't happen that quickly, either way, managed moves take a long time to sort. The boy would not be allowed on school premises apart from exams (alone). We had a big fight last week involving a GCSE student and that's what's happened to him. I'm also at a loss to understand why it's taken you three weeks to insist on police involvement. My child, it would be next day if the school didn't do it.

In every school I have worked in, a zero tolerance approach to any physical attack on a teacher has been taken. The few times I’ve seen it, it has been an automatic permanent exclusion. Schools cannot have a situation, in my opinion, where a child can be seen to have hit out at a teacher and got away with it.

I am sorry your daughter has had this experience. The police may be able to help with the attack but I think the school’s stance is unlikely to change.

and the teachers should be absolutely shitting themselves,

I have never understood why posters think this.

By all means contact OFSTED and the oolice but I doubt that will get your daughter's place reinstated at the Prom. I'd contact some national journalists and see if they'd be interested in covering the story. The school won't want that story in the press.

If you're lucky, this thread will be picked up by The Mail or The Sun and you can email it to the school....

What 8pinksnails says. This sounds very unlikely if there is not more to it. Or the school is shockingly bad at safeguarding and at dealing with violent pupils.

If I were you, and if things had really happened as you say, I would be going to Ofsted and/or the LEA with a safeguarding complaint and using phrases like 'failed in their duty of care'. I would be combing the school's anti-bullying policy and systematically recording all the points contravened. I would be reporting the assailants to the police and I would be looking for potential sources of bias among the governors. The prom - with respect - would be the least of my worries, and I would have been acting before this decision was made. I find it a little odd that you only seem to have been unhappy with the way the school dealt with the incident when the prom sanction came into it. And it's not the culmination of 5 years. That's the GCSE results. It's a nice party, and not the nicest or biggest she'll ever go to either.

So glad you're going to the police. The school failed in its duty to keep your daughter safe and the teachers should be absolutely shitting themselves, not pulling stunts like this. Some schools have a tendency to deal with bullying by blaming victims and it must not be tolerated x

I'd also recommend moving quickly if reporting to police as if school has cctv evidence, it will only be available for a certain amount of time (ours is 4 weeks)

Very unlikely that a new school would take a year 11 at this stage. Managed transfers take a lot of organisation and don't just happen overnight. Also as ginger says exam board and papers will be different.
There's more to this story.

You must go to the Police and get a crime number, at least then you'll have a record of it. The school probably just sees it as black and white, as frightening no matter who's to blame. You say your daughter is "no angel" is she already known to teachers as being a trouble maker and this is the excuse theynwere looking for? I suppose unless the teachers were there it's just one girls word against the other, so I doubt there's anything you can do now, but get the crime number anyway.

I am incredibly surprised that any school would have a new student at such a late stage as two weeks before the GCSEs as exam boards would be different. It would be normal for a student to be excelled to Home/first response centre and then put on support plan (early study leave).