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Moving from private to state at 6th form - any advice?

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PrivateToState · 27/04/2018 15:49

Ds is currently in year 10 at a selective all-boys independent school. He enjoys it generally, although is finding the GCSE pressure a bit of a struggle at times, and has started to voice doubts about whether he really wants to stay on for 6th form. He has talked about wanting a 'change of scene' and a bit more independence. I don't know really whether this is the case or whether it's just GCSE blues.

He has a good group of friends at school, but does also have several other friends (and a girlfriend) at other schools, mostly state, and he makes friends easily so I'm not worried on that score. What concerns me most is that whilst he is bright and able, he tends to be pretty disorganised and a bit lazy. His current school are good at supporting him and keeping him on track. I definitely worry that his natural inclination to do the bare minimum might trip him up in an environment where perhaps fewer tabs are kept on him.

He is predicted mostly 7s and 8s in GCSEs although he will have to knuckle down to get them. The state options around us are good/outstanding although none of them have A-level pass rates even close to his current school's results.

I'd really appreciate any advice or experience from people who have moved slightly unmotivated dcs at 6th form, what made you decide, how did it turn out etc? I've told him that we don't need to make any decisions either way until later in the year but I'd like to canvass opinions from MN now for my own benefit!

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Yvest · 02/05/2018 22:42

Is he at City? If so, it’s such a great school that you’d be looking at real top tier comprehensives to match what he is getting there. Having said that, many of the city kids have siblings in the state sector so may be worth exploring what their thoughts are about state options. A few good ones spring to mind but don’t know where you are. DS considering going the other way

pointyshoes · 02/05/2018 15:47

Is he planning to go to uni? If so, he'll need learn to self motivate, time manage etc at some point. He's well supported at his current school but it's very different at uni and he may struggle if motivation is his particular downfall

LoniceraJaponica · 02/05/2018 07:37

That's interesting Bodging
I have a friend whose son went to private school from nursery at age 3 right through to 6th form. He was with the same cohort all through, never had to deal with the changes that most children deal with when moving from primary to secondary and more or less had his hand held all through school. University was a massive shock, and he ended up having to redo a year at university.

BodgingThisMumThing · 02/05/2018 07:31

I’m going to go from a different perspective. I’m only 20, and I have a friend who went to a brilliant private school near us all the way up until year 11. His parents couldn’t afford 6th form there so he came to college, he went from straight A’s so U’s in his first year of A levels and it wasn’t because of a lack of trying.
I think the guidance he had at private school with the resources and small classes were a world apart from the do it yourself lessons at college.
He did resit and went to university but had to redo the years. And wishes he could have stayed private but you know finances don’t always go that far. I think he then realised the opportunity his parents had given him by affording private all those years. Obviously not true for everyone but maybe a factor to think about.
His private class mates all did bloody brilliant at GCSE and A level compared to us that went to state even though our state was meant to be fairly prestigious.

ellaV · 02/05/2018 07:20

If you're worried he will be lazy without the guidance of school based 6th form, then you will really struggle with uni, where he is living away from home, drinking, and skipping more lectures than he's attending!

I'd try and keep him in school for 6th

LoniceraJaponica · 02/05/2018 07:16

"IMO in some places State offers more options (as is bigger) than private"

That is certainly true of round here. The private school 6th forms have about 60 students in each year. The outstanding 6th form college in the next town offers 31 A level subjects to approximately 2300 students.

Peanutbuttercups21 · 02/05/2018 07:01

It depends what he wants do for a level.

Check out all options, private and state, for the specific options he wants to do.

IMO in some places State offers more options (as is bigger) than private

TalkinPeece · 01/05/2018 22:24

I never met Mander, but Portman and Woodward were effing scary when they called me in to meet with my parents once Grin

Is the Petrol Pump still there ?

TinklyLittleLaugh · 01/05/2018 10:26

One of my kids went to school comp sixth form, one went to massive sixth form college, one went to smaller, more selective sixth form college

Both of the colleges monitored progress constantly and had teachers who really knew the A level syllabus inside out. I think my kids achieved their potential. School sixth form was slacker, A level teaching seemed a bit less expert. DS definitely was capable of better grades.

cakeisalwaystheanswer · 01/05/2018 10:12

MPW is DD's preference! although DH is still trying to talk her into staying put or a co-ed boarding for 6th form. It's strange because she is a really good child, never misses homework and has never been in trouble for anything, but being so good she is in constant fear of breaking the rules and being punished and it makes her very nervous. Her brothers are downright awful and sail through school without worring about anything picking up a hundred punishments along the way.

AhNowTed · 30/04/2018 20:37

We had the same dilemma and decided it was in their best interest to go to the local comp, and like I said feel like winners.

It was 100% the right decision.

Both were top tier in their chosen A level subjects (very different for each and 4 years apart, the later DD only last year). The school was very supportive, teachers knew them very well, and both left with great grades and 1st choice uni.

Who knows what would have happened at the grammar but we never regretted our decision.

Hope that helps Smile

PrivateToState · 30/04/2018 20:14

Excellent point, Ted, and it's something that's occurred to me too. I think ds feel likes a small fish in a big pond at times, and occasionally still speaks wistfully of his small primary school where he was definitely a Big Fish (or as big a fish as one can be as a tiny blond 9-year-old Grin).

I try to remind him that in a selective school even if he's in the bottom 50% for a couple of subjects, he's still doing really well, but I don't think he often feels that way. There's definitely a lot to be said for 'feeling like a winner'.

Lots of food for thought, thank you all.

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AhNowTed · 30/04/2018 19:18

We took the view that we would rather our kids feel like winners in the state school, than struggling to keep up in the hot housing grammar or private.

They thrived and got top grades, and their (bog standard in political parlance) school really supported them, probably more so than a grammar or fee paying.. and likely because it mattered more to support the motivated kids, as it brought up the overall standard.

They left for uni feeling like they'd really achieved something. And were happy!

TalkinPeece · 30/04/2018 19:03

Private
I assumed MPW as well Smile

LoniceraJaponica · 30/04/2018 18:59

“The thing is, OFSTED is so obsessed with data that a good/outstanding state school has every incentive to monitor students performance within an inch of their lives”

This ^^
DD's 6th form is very good at keeping tabs on the students.

“Do be aware that many state schools are under great financial pressure and so may not be able to offer as wide a range of A levels as your independent school”

And this ^^

I think you should look at 6th form colleges as well as schools. DD’s school is the only school in our LA that has a 6th form, but it is very cliquey and many students who started year 12 there didn’t settle and went to the local 6th form college instead.

Round here a large number of students who have been privately educated go to one particular 6th form college because they offer a much wider range of subjects than the school does. Also, it is one of the best in the country, and why pay out £12k+ a year when you can get a better education just up the road for nothing.

PrivateToState · 30/04/2018 18:10

That's food for thought cake - ds left his primary school after year 5 and did 'year 6' at the school he is now at (10+ entry) and that suited him really well. So maybe he does just need a change again, just as he did in year 5.

Your dd's new college isn't MPW, by any chance?

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cakeisalwaystheanswer · 30/04/2018 13:43

OP - DS felt the same way but stuck with it to stay with his friendship group. He is incredibly sociable and is at a party most weeks. What he has found difficult is the constant drudge of being at school from 8.30-16.00 five days a week. On Friday his last lesson is about 10.15 but he has to stay at school until 4 to participate in "community activities". With Saturday matches and always having to attend the constant open days, interview days etc to help, he has found the whole school 6th form experience extremely time consuming and envys his friends at college their spare time. He's glad he stayed for the social experience and thinks he made the right choice for him, but he outgrew the school routine (it's the same as the prep school for 7 year olds) and petty rules a long time ago and he finds it tough.

DD now has to make a similar decision and she in intent on going to a 6th form college. DH isn't impressed so we have compromised on a private 6th form college in South Ken. None of the time consuming nonsense, just lessons in your own clothes with nobody caring how big your earrings are, she can't wait. Could be worth a look for you DS.

TalkinPeece · 29/04/2018 16:35

Which History? - state 6th forms as big as Symonds and Barton offer two Wink
and more languages than many schools can offer www.psc.ac.uk/courses/

Joking apart, despite the cuts biting in the state sector, economies of scale are not to be sniffed at

PrivateToState · 29/04/2018 15:15

He definitely won't be taking maths or physics, and I have no idea where Barton or Symonds are, but I take your point about resources TalkinPeece Grin. He is very much more humanities-focused; English, Spanish, History etc

I will certainly double check all the application dates etc, and go with ds to the open days/evenings. He has mentioned a couple of places and I also have some ideas. I'm not going to put any pressure on him either way though, he may well change his mind again. I like the idea of doing the applications anyway and with a bit of luck perhaps holding a couple of places without having to make a firm decision until later.

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TalkinPeece · 28/04/2018 22:40

PS
Symonds has around 800 kids taking maths and a couple of hundred taking further
physics has a couple of hundred - it has its own building
even private schools struggl to compete with that Wink

TalkinPeece · 28/04/2018 22:39

round here its INCREDIBLY common
hundreds and hundreds of kids move from private into the state sector for 6th form
Barton and Symonds get amazing results
and are a fab halfway house between school and uni
whats not to like

Bekabeech · 28/04/2018 17:58

I would go and visit the ones you are considering, and both you and your son meet the teachers of the subjects he is interested in. With my DD even a brief evening visit was enough to rule out one sixth form.
Then you can apply to multiple Sixth forms and even hold on to multiple offers. Check with his present school when he has to say he won't be staying to avoid fees.
My DD only decided between two Sixth forms after Induction days, and she could have held onto both until registration at the end of August.
If you have any Sixth Form colleges I would definitely recommend looking at them too.

Astronotus · 28/04/2018 13:48

OP. Do be aware that many state schools are under great financial pressure and so may not be able to offer as wide a range of A levels as your independent school. Opportunities to study subjects such as Ancient Languages, Further Maths and some art courses can be limited.

Dozer · 28/04/2018 10:49

What motivates him? Does he know what he might wish to choose for A level and do afterwards? That might inform school choice.

AChickenCalledKorma · 28/04/2018 10:47

The thing is, OFSTED is so obsessed with data that a good/outstanding state school has every incentive to monitor students performance within an inch of their lives. Obviously you'd need to ask some very pertinent questions about how an individual school keeps tabs on progress. Some will be better than others. But certainly our main two local state school options offer such things as regular one-to-one tutorials during sixth form, to help keep students on track and tackle any individual issues. And around here the classes are much smaller than at GCSE level.

I think the gap in resourcing is more likely to be noticeable in terms of the range of extra-curricular activities, textbooks etc. But if you are saving ££'s in fees, you will certainly be in a position to fill those gaps.

You're right though that it's a bit of a leap into the unknown. And despite having looked at all the options, I have to confess that I'm quite relieved that DD1's current school is her favourite sixth form, so I don't have to contemplate making that leap!

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