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GCSEs - how to motivate your DC

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1Wanda1 · 20/03/2018 09:39

I've read the GCSEs thread and it's great that so many DC are conscientiously putting in the hours to achieve their potential this summer.

DS is not one of them. I am at my wits' end trying to find ways to instil some motivation in him and don't know what to do. He is a perfectly able student when he applies himself, but he never voluntarily applies himself. Since November I have been trying to get him to revise, and all that happens is arguments.

Mocks were in Dec and in the run up to them he went mental every time I suggested revision, insisting that he was doing plenty. Mocks results were well below his "tag" grades - in some cases 2 or 3 grades below. After results he said he hadn't worked for them but if he had, he would have got all 7s. They had second mocks in English and Maths in March so I said fine, having learned what happens with no revision, now will you work harder for the next ones? He said he would. He did a bit more work but nowhere near enough. Grades coming soon but not expected to be any better.

His actual GCSEs are starting in 7 weeks! He has a maths tutor and an English tutor, both of whom say he is lazy. If I ever raise this with him, he goes mental about how nothing is ever good enough for me and he's such a disappointment. I wouldn't mind him getting 4s and 5s if that reflected his best effort, but all his teachers say he is capable of 7s and above.

His teachers are running extra revision sessions at school and every week I have to really push him to go to them. He says things like "I don't need to go to the History session on Cold War, because I'm fine on that". His History teacher says otherwise.

This isn't a pass/fail problem. He will still get 5s and above in most subjects with minimal work. But he could do so much better and just does not seem to care about how mediocre gcse grades will affect his a level courses, and uni applications, or jobs.

There is no point me banging on about it at him. How can I get HIM to care?

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ReinettePompadour · 20/03/2018 11:20

You wont get him to care. He doesn't yet see the benefits of doing his GCSEs. Theres no correlation between him studying, getting the 7s he is capable of and getting onto a good University course or apprenticeship. The schools tend to work 1 focus at a time and its a case of 'lets get the GCSEs out the way then we will look at the next step'.

It sounds really awful but I would just leave him alone to deal with it however he feels he wants to. Don't nag him just ask him once a week if he managed to get any revision done last week and leave it at that. He will either start cramming last minute because he's starting to get nervous or he wont bother because he's sure he will be fine.

DD came home with several 'GCSE in a week' crammer books last month that the school were lending to students Hmm that isn't going to help motivate them, it gives the impression they can do all the study they need in just a week to pass.

Its not the end of the world if he doesn't do as well as his potential should allow him. He genuinely can resit them once he has had the shock of not getting the grades he wanted or go on to study Access courses or foundation degrees if he wants to go to University.

How has he done with his mocks? If theyre 6/7 then he really wont see why he needs to revise because his grades are ok just not up to Mums standards

ifonly4 · 20/03/2018 11:09

DD did her GCSEs last year when coursework still made up a large amount of the grade and she put everything into getting that as right as possible.

However, I had the same concerns this time last year. DD has hardly ever done any revision in her life, I knew others were doing it regularly and DD was stating she wouldn't go to any revision sessions as she wanted to spend the time revising what she wanted.

However, about three weeks before the exams, she got herself focused and would be up until 11pm revising. Fingers crossed, this will happen for your son.

What are his plans next year? If there's a course or apprenticeship he really wants, that might help him focus on doing his best now. It might be worth having a word with someone at the school to see if they can encourage him/have a chat.

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