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AIBU to feel my bullied child was punished instead of the bully

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Paprikas · 06/10/2017 23:43

My daughter is quite a petite 12, herself and her friends were told to get off a bench by a much larger girl. When they wouldn’t this girl went for her, ripped her earring out, pulled hair out her scalp etc, my daughter kicked back at her, to get her off but it took a 6th year boy to lift the bully away. Anyway my daughter is traumatised, has been off school the last 2 days while the other girl was in the “support base” and threatened another one of dd’s friends. I don’t think the girl was punished, it was assault, what if she did that to a teacher. The school had been ignoring our calls until my elder dd put up a Facebook post. She then had the head boy shouting at her and sending a very passive aggressive message tonight. Sorry for ranting on but this school is already in bother with the council for bullying issues. AIBU feeling the punishment wasnt enough, I am too close to it to feel I’m making a measured decision. I’m thinking of reporting to the council and would appreciate any input. Thanks.

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noblegiraffe · 07/10/2017 00:08

Your DD was assaulted. My school would have been advising you to call the police as schools are not adequately equipped to deal with that level of assault.
If it had happened to you you'd be calling the police, just because it happened on school grounds it doesn't make it any less serious.

GreenTulips · 06/10/2017 23:46

Sorry let me add

The school will be in a difficult position and you ringing the police will actually help the school build a case to get her expelled or managed moved or other help she may need (she does need help even if you can't see that at the moment)

The school should be calling you to check her well being

Ring them first thing and report it as assult

JoanneCoften · 06/10/2017 23:46

Reporting to the police would be more appropriate I think.

GreenTulips · 06/10/2017 23:45

Why the council? Ring the police.