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11 plus done.....now it's the waiting game to see if dd's passed. Anyone else feeling a bit stressed?

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littlebopeepsheep · 25/09/2017 14:32

I thought I'd feel great that it's all done, but I think I feel a bit worse now! DD came out of both tests feeling happy and that she'd done really well on one and pretty well on the other but you can't tell can you? I just worry that if she's not passed she will feel like a failure when she's never felt like that before. She also really loves the grammar school and will be so disappointed if she doesn't get in.

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TheNext · 25/09/2017 21:27

I'm with you. I wish this wait could be over. I've found the whole thing hideous and given that it's computer-marked, can't see why we have to wait so long.

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 20:59

Sorry im.not explaining well clearly.

She loves her sport.

Secondary school is where it can often be the case that girl a have different sports choices to the boys.

She wants to go to the girls school as they have a better variety of after school sports and pe sports as there are no boys to assign other sports too.

Any county team would he an added bonus.

She is in the cricket team at her primary which recently reached regional finals

MumTryingHerBest · 25/09/2017 20:55

Gileswithachainsaw I just meant she wants to go now because there won't be the segregation of sports there so often is now on mixed schools.

I wasn't aware that there were girls grammar schools that excelled in cricket in the county league or cross county league.

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 20:34

She's in the cricket team (or was for the season and hopes to be again) at her current school

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 20:34

No she's still at primary.

The scholl she wants to go to does alot if sports no idea if they are high performing teams.

I just meant she wants to go now because there won't be the segregation of sports there so often is now on mixed schools.

MumTryingHerBest · 25/09/2017 20:32

Gileswithachainsaw The girls team at her school made it further than the boys teams in competitions!!

OK, bit confused now. Is your DC already at Grammar School or due to join a grammar school that has a top performing Cricket team?

I can't find any with a top performing girls circket team, Obs. I need to do a lot more reasearch into the Bucks Grammars.

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 20:24

Dd is a very keen cricketer!! Smile

The girls team at her school made it further than the boys teams in competitions!!

Smile
MumTryingHerBest · 25/09/2017 20:22

Gileswithachainsaw there's no more sexist bull shit even it comes to sports and she won't have to watch the boys do cricket and not be able to play.

DC2 a couple of years away, wasn't aware that there were girls cricket teams. Runs off to find out which Grammar Schools in the area have girls circket teams :-)

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 20:20

It's the 13th in bucks.

Not sure how bucks scoring differs from anywhere else

Bobbins43 · 25/09/2017 20:17

16th October here too. I don’t actually get what the numbers will tell us. Presumably there won’t be a benchmark either?

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 20:10

So does dd1 now. Especially now she's taken notice of the fact it's all girls means there's no more sexist bull shit even it comes to sports and she won't have to watch the boys do cricket and not be able to play.

But late now though she needed to care about that months ago:(

Live4theday · 25/09/2017 20:05

So pleased it's not just me! The high school open days start next week, so it is all seeming abit real now! Our backup options are not great, and she has her heart set on a grammar.

Gileswithachainsaw · 25/09/2017 15:02

I feel.worse too tbh. I'd have preferred dd came out crying she couldn't do it. Least that way I'd have escaped a month of not knowing.

I haven't taken dd to see the grammar as I didn't want her falling in love with the place or even hating it and adding to the stress.

The back up option is not good but nothing I can really do.

Allthebestnamesareused · 25/09/2017 15:01

The wait is horrible. I'll keep my fingers crossed for her.

In the meantime if there is any positive press about the back up place show your DD

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littlebopeepsheep · 25/09/2017 14:59

Luckily here it goes on distance from the school, so dd will get a place if she passes. Back up option is pretty good so it won't be a disaster if she doesn't pass. I think the pressure is on more because our other older dd passed and is loving it at the grammar and we would like both to have the same chances iyswim.

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GuestWW · 25/09/2017 14:42

Fortunately we don't have to wait too long here - results on the 16th October. Remember even the score won't tell you if she has got in or not, the wait is on until 1st March. Do you have a good back-up option? This is my second year going through the process and I think it is harder on the parents than the children if handled well. We can do the worrying and they can just enjoy their last year at primary school.

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