11 plus done.....now it's the waiting game to see if dd's passed. Anyone else feeling a bit stressed?

Hope you don't mind if I join you, I am going crazy with this wait!
We're due one result this Friday and the other no date has been released yet but some are saying the 16th? (Bucks & Berks)
DS was very confident with both exams but then so were 90% of the other children!
I have convinced myself that he hasn't passed!

Oh my that really is stressful bella. Massive good luck to your DTs. That has put my worrying a bit more in perspective x

So glad I've found this thread! Waiting for 4pm Thursday - apparently Kent email the results then so don't need to wait for the postman. Will just be checking my inbox obsessively... My nightmare scenario is one DT passes and the other doesn't.

The wait is awful. In my area they post results on Friday and we get them Saturday. I keep thinking they must know them by now and wishing they'd just send an email. At least if we know one way or the other we can deal with it! Dd is absolutely convinced she's passed and I'm dreading how she will cope if she hasn't. I keep telling her it doesn't matter, things happen for a reason etc, but she looks at me like I'm mad and tells me she knows she's passed so I feel guilty for doubting her. Thing is I'm sure most of the dc think they've passed!

Live4theday I'm just glad this weekend has gone past relatively quickly. It's possible we may get our letter on Friday - but t has generally been the Saturday or Monday in previous years. Got lots on this week so will be kept busy hoping that helps the time fly too! It's the not knowing that gets me.....I like having things sorted and dealt with. If I know she's got a place I'll be happy, if not then the only thing that concerns me is the long wait till March 1st allocations day....roll on this weekend!

Results week! Feel like this week is going to drag! Just wish we knew now so we could start making plans. We have only looked around one comp which my daughter wasn’t keen on ( it is the best one in our area!). The grammar school open days are next week, fingers crossed for everyone wanting for Kent or Medway results.

Good luck to everyone waiting. I was in this position this time last year and will be again next year so I know how it feels.
DS came out of his test distraught and tearful convinced he didn’t do well enough. However he got in and has had a fabulous start over the last month.

Ours isn't a super selective thankfully - but it is a good school. I was dubious about sending ds initially as i thought it would be high pressure, loads of homework but the last two years have been an absolute joy for him. He's made loads of friends, is enjoying all his subjects and is thriving. He bumped along at primary, not interested in football, no real group of friends, not really being pushed as he achieved without much effort. Dd is different, she works hard and has a wide group of friends, generally happy wherever she is. The local comp is great, but we have plenty of inaccessible faith schools of all denominations which are excellent in themselves - though we haven't a chance - and quite a few schools that aren't worth even considering unfortunately. So two options - one if she doesn't get a pass next Saturday.

I have been microanalysing the top table allocations - why is x on there and y isn't. Was the split made before or after the school found out the 11 plus scores. Insanity here we come! Veering more towards thinking she hasn't passed but have no real evidence. Wait will be even worse next time as ds has his heart set on a super selective, not that he has even seen it yet.

Yes the wait us awful.had weird dream last night where we got 119 and all her friends passed and we had to faff about appealing..

So now I'm hoping if she doesn't pass it's a significant amount of points as I don't think between that and allocation day I can take it..

14th for us.....am also finding this wait between exam and results more unbearable than the year of preparation leading up to it. Keep on hearing scare stories (which are actually true) like high birth rate year, more local housing built and an extra 250 kids sitting the exam this year compared to previous years. It's not the end of the world if she doesn't pass, but she wants to go where her brother is. And for me the prospect of dealing with 3 schools rather than just 2 is very daunting .
We're in catchment so that's a bonus, bug with the increased number of applicants I think the base mark pass percentage will have been raised too.

Thanks, interesting. Often on the more heated debate threads on this topic it is difficult to tell as you have people who went to grammar 30 years ago debating with people who didn't 30 years ago.

Hope all your DCs end up with a school they thrive in.

Perigold By bog standard I mean i.e not faith or academy. Not sure what correct term is community school?

Community Comprehensive in new area is good and plenty of DC 'like mine' go. I liked it when we looked around. Not so for the ones in old town.

No one in dc's year went to a "bog standard" comp either. They are all quite good.

I grew up in a full grammar/secondary modern system and went to a grammar school. I now live in a city with no grammar schools and excellent comprehensives. DD is in Y6 now, and we are going round open evenings and getting ready to fill in application forms. DD is a high academic achiever, and I'm very glad to live in a comprehensive area. I don't think she's missing out on the slightest.

We have the (very lucky) puzzle of trying to decide if the grammar is the most desirable option. Test sat to keep options open but DC still very unsure. We have a good (and closer) comp. The way allocation distances work here whatever we put first is what we get.

I recall the period well. My DD sat 11+ last year. I've sat plenty of exams and you know how it went but this was all on the word of a 10 year old.
Just a heads up our results came early, due by 12th and arrived by post Saturday 8th (they had done same previous year too)
Our area a pass in catchment and you are in so you know by mid October they are in (yes you must put school as no 1 on CAF but 1st March is a formality)
It depends perigord In town we used to live in (full comprehensive area) any DC like mine used to move to nearby area for better schools (we did this), find faith and bus out of town to C of E, find faith and stay in town for RC, bus out of town to out of catchment grammars (3 within travelling distance) or go private (up north looking about £11,000 a year at secondary school) My Dd has just started yr 7 and no one I know in old town with a DC her age went to a bog standard comprehensive.
TeenTimesTwo We are not a fully grammar area (only 4 in whole county 2 mixed, one boys, one girls) so other 2 choices were outstanding comps. We moved here with a 7 year old from fully comp area and secondary schools were 1 reason for the move, but not only reason.

I suppose in a comp area the children who would normally be in a grammar are at the comp though, so there's no reason why they wouldn't be able to find like-minded kids.

We're in a fully comp county with good comps. One girl in dd's year went private, everyone else went to a comp. I went to a grammar. I did fit in for the first time and meet other dc who were like me, but the same has happened for dd at her comp. I think at primary they are stuck with the same group of thirty, but at high school they are able to find their tribe in their year group as the year group is so much bigger and there is more mixing. Dd's also not experienced unkindness from the cool ones at high school as she did at primary. So i guess either can be an improvement socially on primary school.

I think I would prefer it.

I mean if much rather but have had to put dd through it. I wish tht the choices aren't exam or one of the worst schools in county.

But that's probably more an issue with the standards of schools rather than the type of school.

Tricky one. The 11 plus is stressful. But my eldest ds is absolutely thriving at grammar. He truly fits in for the first time and has met other dc who are like him and have the same interests as him. So actually I do feel lucky to have the option despite the stress.

While you are in limbo, may I ask you all a question?

Would you prefer to live in an all comp area (irrespective now of whether your DC pass 11+ or not)?

I'm feeling really stressed today and still got a week and a half to go. Dd seems sure she's passed but I'm sure most dc who took the 11 plus feel the same as they're bound to think they answered the questions correctly. When my ds took the 11 plus 2 years ago our local high school (where dd will go if she doesn't pass) was in special measures and we were so relieved he passed I think some of the negativity about the other school has been passed onto dd. Even though the school is doing much better now I am so worried dd will be gutted and think she has let us down and that the other school is inferior because of it's history and our opinion on it when ds was doing the 11 plus. Aghhhh....

Actually, our comp is okay. Not amazing, but okay. It's miles away (rural catchment) and gets below average results but some kids do well and dc liked it at the open day.

The thing I worry about is the fact of not passing, and how that could undermine dc's confidence. When I saw all the kids go in on test day I couldn't stop thinking that two thirds wouldn't make it to grammar school and how disappointed they would be on results day. And maybe dc will be in that disappointed group, maybe not, but I hate the thought of lots of sad 10yos.

Eurgh, I hate it also. I guess it takes longer because once the papers are marked, the raw scores are standardised. 5 week’s is a bloody long time.

Lots of children here are saying the tests were ‘easy’ because they answered all the questions so feel they’ve done well. Doesn’t mean they got them all right though, and i’m predicting a lot of disappointed children around here.

We’ve done the rounds of high schools and made a choice that we’re happy with. First choice is the GS but DD seems to be ok with the high school she’s chosen so we’ll see what the postman brings in a few weeks time.