So, I am not sure how I expect MN to solve this for me but DH is in full on rant mode and DS is in either indignant squeaking or grim tearful silence mode so I just need a bit of support really.
Some of you may be familiar with the story from other threads but here it is:
DS went to normal local secondary which for some stupid reason has its sixth form in a separate town with different senior personnel. Early in year 11 the SF couldn't and wouldn't commit to A level Spanish, DS's best subject by a long way.
So, we shopped around and went to various open evenings. the choice then boiled down to the original school or the sixth form college (we aren't a normal SF college area) in a town a 30 minute bus ride away.
After GCSE results day, it became a definite that school 1 was offering Spanish but that DS still couldn't do it in combination with his other allegedly preferred subjects.
DS is a terrible communicator and quite anxious. He went for an induction to the college and promptly changed his option choices (again!) but said he wanted to go there. Doing Spanish, French, Politics and business.
He has done two days and is upset, unhappy, hates French, hates core maths (that they have to do). he does not know that the original school are prepared to take him back doing Spanish, politics and business. Apart form full marks in his Spanish GCSE, French was his only other genuinely high result. he got an A. But he finds the teaching intimidating and says his class ahs lots of fluent speakers.
He could just drop French at the new place but he still says he hates it.
What would you do? Cut your losses and send him back to his original school? Or make him stick it out , having made the decision himself to go to the college...?
He is genuinely unhappy but he has only been for two days. That said, if he is going to change , it has to be sooner rather than later.
No one tells you this stage of parenting is the most stressful yet!!!
probably millions of stress induce typos in this