DD given a Prefect role on a 'probationary' basis - singled out for not complying with school rules, which is news to us

I remember from my school days the odd pupil would be treated more harshly than others. My exDH was ridiculed and bullied by a teacher. It happens. OP it sounds like talking to the deputy head would get you some answers.
Not everyone on here is wearing rose tinted glasses and thinking their child can do no wrong- sometimes adults do let feelings cloud their judgement and affect their behaviour. To refuse to entertain it as a possibility is very unfair on OP.

Mumsnet isn't a collective if the op thinks her childs teacher is picking on her then the op should say. However teenagers can and do look around and blame everybody else for things they do

I think to be fair to the op it can be a bit of a vicious circle, there are definitely teachers and pupils who start off on a bad foot and never recover. I think it will help your daughter to accept responsibility and crucially to work on her reactions, as it should be fairly easy to modify e.g. skirt length, outdoor time, but can be more tricky to modify your emotions and stop yourself backing away, rolling eyes etc if you are in the habit of doing so. Help her learn ways of holding her feelings in and finding appropriate outlets.

If a poster were in a situation where they were being bullied by a manager, the advice would be not to react and calmly make a note of any incidents where they have been treated unfairly with dates etc for future reference. I would do this and also try to think of ways to get ahead - e.g. volunteering help with a school event.

I was an overemotional teen and it wasn't a happy place to be - despite best intentions I would always get it a bit wrong. I'd have loved some support to help me understand and handle my emotions better and accept responsibility for my actions.

Bensyster
Mumsnet does tend towards believing the teacher before the child

Mumsnet tends towards finding out all of the details before going in like a bull in a china shop.

She and every other girl who has been selected as Prefects all do this

The only relevant bit is that your dd does it.

The going back in to the changing room - that does look suspicious, sorry.

hmcAsWas

From what you have posted your dd does not come across as 'bad' or 'naughty', but then neither does the teacher.

It could well be that the teacher "has it in " for your child, it could be the your child is "bad", It is more likely that what is happening is a series of your dd doing the wrong thing as the tutor is there.

neither is wrong, neither is bad sometimes things just coincide.

Mumsnet does tend towards believing the teacher before the child....op you have to decide whether this is the case and how far you wish to investigate this. Teachers are human, not saints...some behave rather badly, but some kids behave rather badly too. Ds feels one of his teachers picks on him, I requested a meeting with her to ask her what he was doing to upset her as he was getting quite anxious and was considering dropping the subject...I never got the meeting - she didn't respond but her attitude to ds improved remarkably.

Frustrating as it is what everybody else gets or seems to get away with is no concern of your Dds her moaning it is not fair isn't going to help her . Tell her to keep her skirt at length and just keep her head down teenagers are very good at the teacher hates me thing sometimes.

Having had a situation where my teenage DD ended up receiving an apology from her form teacher for unfairly singling her out I wouldn't be so quick to assume the problem is with HMC's DD. In my DD's case the form teacher's behaviour and treatment of DD were picked up by other staff which led to the apology. Is there a member of staff your DD gets on with who she could talk to?

the Form teacher is beyond reproach.

Can you point to anyone who's said that?

In my experience, teachers don't take "irrational dislikes" to pupils. If there's an issue, there will be a reason for it, although they should at all times be professional and fair. The debate here is whether there is good cause for this teacher to be on your dd's case. You think not. Posters here think there must be more to it than your dd is telling you/admitting to.

I reckon user149 is the form tutor.

user1490123259 come on, we all know teachers who picked on kids at school.

hmcAsWas

No-one can tell if it was constructive unless the context is known.

Were they messing around in the corridor?
Were they just at their lockers?
Were they pushing and shoving each other to get away?
Were the giggling in the locker room?
Were they cowering in the corner?
Were they making comments 'she's coming in' etc.
Was it possible to walk away in the opposite direction?

And by going into the changing room the teacher has to follow.

But the context is everything.

She probably asked what they were doing as they looked guilty rushing back into the changing room when they saw her

No it doesn't stop them rolling up the pleated skirts and it does look bloody awful, #not classy....I'm slightly ashamed of this but I have pointed out really bad examples of rolled up skirts to dd to convince her that rolled up looks worse that knee length and she agrees - as I said previously I'm a fan of trousers for all.

Honestly hmc you are way overinvested in this. I seriously doubt that your dd's teachers have time for a weekly review meeting with her! And no teacher I've ever met actually 'dislikes' certain students. It's pretty standard to use probabtion periods for some prefects. She's probably slightly breaking a few rules but is generally a good kid. Maybe her form tutor is picking up on the minor rule breaking and others are not. This is really not a big deal and you are making it in to one meaning your dd feels that it is as well. She's a prefect. That's a good thing. Soon probation will be over.

I think your daughter is playing you!
Why was she asked to go outside in the first place - my bet is she was messing around.
Running in to the changing rooms - somewhere she should not have been.

She sounds silly and immature - probably fuelled by you she is feeding you 'horror' stories. Tell her to be a prefect she needs to behave and grow up a bit.

I am willing to bet that the dd rolls her eyes as well as her skirt........

hmcAsWas
But then surely it doesn't get described as a poor start either Boney?

I didn't say that it did.

but running away from the form tutor doesn't look good either.

and I honestly hope that your dd does become a prefect. It has been the making of so many pupils that I know.

Are you dd's teacher user?

I doubt it. But every teacher reading this thread will "get" the situation you're describing.

Pity you don't, too.