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How much do you monitor teens homework?

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FarAwayHills · 08/02/2017 14:36

DD is in year 8 and has always been pretty good about school work. At the beginning of Y7 I helped a bit mainly by reminding or prompting about what needed to be done by when due to lots of new subjects and multiple deadlines. In Y8 I have backed off allowing her to be more independent and mange things herself. I do ask about homework but she always assures me it's all under controlHmm. So last week she totally forgot a project that was due and this morning she realised that she had forgotten about some homework due today.

So do I revert to the more hands on approach or let her face the consequences at school? I would be interested to hear what others do with teens and homework and if you let them manage things or do you get more involved? I also suspect that her constant attachment to her phone is having an impact so I might have to put some rules in place there.

TIA

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Heifer · 08/02/2017 15:30

Part of me wants to totally back off with my daughter (yr8) but I also want her to feel supported and that I am interested. I find it a hard balance as too much and I get accused (fairly) of being too pushy/interfering. So I am trying to find the balance so she is managing herself. I log onto the homework system every few days so I know roughly what is due but I leave her to decide when and how to do it.

If she doesn't look like she will be doing any that evening I do ask her if she has anything due the next day or so. If she says no, (generally has forgotten) then I say are you sure Spanish isn't due soon - that will prompt her to look. Saves any major meltdowns as she hates to forget.

She works hard and wants to complete all her homework but like all of us - sometimes forgets or doesn't feel like it.. I try to help then by suggesting that it would be better to get it out of the way etc..

I found it much easier in juniors when she had homework every night due back the next day - she had a routine that she followed so was easy.

In Yr 8 she seems to get less homework than ever before (she does complete some at school) plus it seems very random as to when its due so its easier to forget.

Bottom line is that it would be better if she looked at the firefly system every day then she wouldn't get caught out when things have been added after the lesson that wasn't discussed etc...