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School exclusion

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Prostolos13 · 20/10/2016 22:39

Today my daughter been excluded from the school for fixed term. When she came home she was extremely upset because she has been accused of being racist. For me it was a shock because we are "mixed race family". She explained that the boy was rude to her so she mocked his accent.
I understand and agree that this behaviour needs to be addressed, but find it difficult to call it racial abuse.
I also can't help but feel that if we deal with things like that through rigorous punishment we are teaching our kids to be victims. The reality is that on a daily basis at work I come across people who find my accent funny or correct my pronunciation. Should I report all of those to the Police? Or I can choose to think differently, as I sure that not all of them do it because they hate me. Aren't we just giving our kids permission to feel offended anytime someone disagrees with them or have a different opinion.
I am not excusing my daughter, but isn't it just rude to mock accent? Especially where 13 year olds are involved?
I am planning to complain to schools Governing Body. Do you think it's worth it or should I just accept it and do nothing?

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Scarydinosaurs · 21/10/2016 06:03

How is it 'playing a racist card'?

She mocked a feature of his race, it is racist- rude too! But racist first.

You're better off supporting the school, backing up their stance at home, and teach your daughter to not mock the race of other people.

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Prostolos13 · 21/10/2016 05:59

So I can teach my daughter now to play the same racist card and get somebody else into trouble?
I would have thought that all school have to do something about it not just exclude people. How does it challenges racist beliefs if there are some?
And I really feel sorry for the boy, because he'll be walking through life feeling that somebody is being racist to him, while all they do is being simply rude.

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noblegiraffe · 20/10/2016 22:42

There are strict school policies on dealing with racism and this incident will have to be recorded.

The definition that schools use is that the incident was perceived to be racist by the victim or any other person, so your DD's race won't come into it and I don't think that you can argue it wasn't racist if someone else thought it was.