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simpson · 01/09/2016 00:11

Hi...

Just wondering if other parents/kids are worrying about starting secondary school. We have had tears (from DS) tonight and we still have another week to go!!

I am sure he will be fine but I am worrying (as is he).

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TeenAndTween · 13/09/2016 13:45

DD would like to play 'it' and stuff like that.
But it's not the done thing, and is considered babyish.

(I bet the boys can play football though)

Grinstead · 13/09/2016 13:43

Anyone else's Year 7 child finding the breaktimes boring? DD seems to be enjoying school and settling in but I know it will take her time as no-one else from primary went with her but she says that at break/lunch time children just go back to their form room and talk or sit on narrow strip of grass but are not encouraged to go on field and play - I find it really disappointing - what do your Year 7s do at lunch/break?

AChickenCalledKorma · 12/09/2016 22:32

DD2 has also now declared that school is "boring" which I take to mean that the novelty has worn off and she has realised they are actually going to make her work. She also "loves" history and french. Except when they are boring, obviously. She's joined six clubs - at least two of which run at the same time Hmm - and either wants to do all of them or none at all, depending how tired she is when the subject comes up. Depending on her emotional state she's either hyper excited or sobbing because she doesn't want to go. It's exhausting!

colouringinagain · 12/09/2016 22:25

Oh no! Great bus driver though Smile

Wriggle45 · 12/09/2016 22:23

Does my DD win prize for being the first one to get the wrong school bus home? Ended up 30 minutes away from where DH was waiting for her and lovely bus driver sat in his bus with her until he got there..... Hopefully tomorrow she will check before getting on Confused

colouringinagain · 12/09/2016 22:14

Thanks Titsy. Steppe her form tutor is aware - I think it is just going to take some time. She was ok after school and dh is going into London tomorrow so they'll get the train together.

Titsy glad your dd had a better day. Rather you than me with the crush tho Wink

Lumberjack I reckon yr right re FB!

Tomorrow is another day.... I'm just making sure I get lots of sleep so I don't run out of patience Wink

Titsywoo · 12/09/2016 16:07

More successful day today. She enjoyed art and didn't find anything too boring. More PE testing tomorrow and the day after which looks like mainly running so less scary than swimming for her! She was quite excited this morning that her new friend told her that one of the boys has a crush on her. Oh god here we go... Wink

OldBeanbagz · 12/09/2016 13:02

DS is on his fourth day at high school and it seems to be going ok. I'm still having to remind him what he shoud be packing in his bag each day but i'll put up with that for the first couple of weeks.

Apparently they did rugby on Friday but he didn't try too hard as the teacher would have put him into the more advanced group where there were more injuries Shock. DS likes football/cricket much better so is keeping his head down this term!

The after school clubs start today so he has to remember to sign up for the ones he wants and find his way there. Fingers crossed it all goes well.

oklumberjack · 12/09/2016 12:00

My dd went off ok this morning without much angst. I hope it continues.

Over the weekend I didn't mention school much except to laugh about something to do with it with a big smile on my face (I still feel very anxious but am good at hiding it)

I think it will take a while for my dd to feel comfortable but if I'm honest with myself I think I knew she would. When started Primary it took her the whole of reception to relax Confused. She was very confident and popular by the end of Y6 - and then we chose a different school to everyone else! I do make things hard for myself sometimes.

FB is all bollocks though. There's seems to be a trend/competition amongst my peers about who's child is ADORING school the most. I felt much better when I bumped into a good friend in Sainsburys. Her ds has just started secondary school with loads of primary mates and he's finding it a bit hard and a bit of a shock. As much as I don't want him to feel awful (he'll be fine) if definitely made me feel more normal!

steppemum · 12/09/2016 11:37

dd panicking about pe.
she has to take earrings out or cover with tape.
She can't take them in and out herself, so has gone off with tape, a little worried.

school website says plain one colour studs, and says nothing about pe. She only has one pair of studds and she can't click them herself. She has only had them pierced since Easter and doesn't want to leave them out all day.

Titsywoo · 12/09/2016 11:17

Did she go off ok this morning colouring? Sometimes they are most nervous about things in the evening/at bedtime when they have time to start thinking and worrying. I think they are all going to need a few weeks to settle in. DD has art today which is her favourite subject so I hope she likes it. If she finds that boring as well I may cry!

steppemum · 12/09/2016 11:03

Oh colouring Sad

Do you think it is time to drop you tutor and email and let them know she is struggling?

colouringinagain · 11/09/2016 22:19

Dd in tears this evening - v nervous again... Sad

Titsywoo · 11/09/2016 19:27

DD said to me tonight that primary school was much better than secondary :( I think she has been finding the lessons so far boring which concerns me a bit. Hope everyone's DC has a good week :)

TeenAndTween · 10/09/2016 10:29

My DD is still fast asleep. She's only had 3 days of school, and no homework. Better go and wake her up I think!

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PonderingProsecco · 09/09/2016 19:22

My ds was enjoying himself then got injured [accident].
So fed up he is missing school. Injury will cause problems for some time...
School seem to be saying right things so hope all will be well when he goes back. Sad.

Titsywoo · 09/09/2016 18:37

That's fab unlockable :) so hard when they are being bullied. My ds has asd and had a lot of issues in the first few years of primary.

Thanks everyone. We are going ice-skating with her friends then having pizza and a sleepover.

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oklumberjack · 09/09/2016 17:56

Sorry for double post.

oklumberjack · 09/09/2016 17:56

That's great Unlockable. I'm so pleased for you and your dd.

A similar thing happened to my friends dd. She had an awful 6 months of Y6 Primary. She ended up at the same secondary school as most of the girls, but found completely new friends very quickly. She's now thriving.

oklumberjack · 09/09/2016 17:56

That's great Unlockable. I'm so pleased for you and your dd.

A similar thing happened to my friends dd. She had an awful 6 months of Y6 Primary. She ended up at the same secondary school as most of the girls, but found completely new friends very quickly. She's now thriving.

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simpson · 09/09/2016 17:45

Titsy happy birthday to your DD Cake

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simpson · 09/09/2016 17:43

Another great day. He got the bus for the first time too.

He made another friend in art.

I suspect that the kids have been put in their sets/streams already (going on SATS results I guess). They have CATS tests next week so will move some kids around but movement hopefully minimal.

Fern how was your DD today? DD (8) is the one who worries me when she starts secondary (on spectrum) as she finds friendships tough.

DS is Shock at the amount of homework though (came from a no homework policy primary).

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