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My son MUST have HAIR CUT for secondary school!

187 replies

strewthy13 · 25/08/2016 11:38

We have been informed that we MUST get our sons hair cut before he goes up to secondary school this year. If we don't the school will refuse to let him attend. We have written to the school and quoted the sexual discrimination act etc but they will not budge. The school rules say hair no longer than the collar and will not be tolerated. Hair off or him off. We are really not happy about this and needless to say our son is devastated to say the least. Our child has had long blonde hair since he started to walk...thoughts and ideas would be very much appreciated. If anyone has had the same experience that would be helpful too!

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JenLindley · 25/08/2016 11:49

Oh yawn confusion
It's perfectly fine to have personal issues that affect only you whilst there is worse stuff going on in the world. Bigger shit doesn't mean the smaller stuff isn't still a problem.

angeldiver · 25/08/2016 11:49

Choose a different school with different rules.
Did you not realise when you chose that school that they have certain uniform/appearance rules?

PrincessHairyMclary · 25/08/2016 11:48

dickie it can't be a safety thing if girls can have long hair there. If the rule is the same for the girls fair enough but I bet it's not.

confusionis · 25/08/2016 11:46

We live in a world where its ok for armed police to undress a woman on a public beach because the law says she is wearing too many clothes. And you are worried about a little hair cut?

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 25/08/2016 11:46

Ignore it. They can't discriminate like that.

DS had really long hair until recently.

What about a Jon Snow style man bun??

curlywillow · 25/08/2016 11:45

tie it back. They'll probably drop it.

Pendu · 25/08/2016 11:44

Don't back down. There isn't a good reason for this. What about Sikh boys? Transgender? Why can't boys have long hair ?? Move schools of needs be, but don't back down. Contact your mp.

TealGiraffe · 25/08/2016 11:43

Can he wear it tied up? Or must it be cut?

Ultimately if you want him in that school he has to follow the rules. If you frame it as a positive and look at hairstyles online etc he may be more open to it? Is he picking up on your unhappiness over the whole thing?

JenLindley · 25/08/2016 11:43

Have they given the option of tying it up so its above his collar or are they just saying it has to go altogether?

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 25/08/2016 11:42

It's probably a safety thing. Can't he just put it in a ponytail?

GeneralBobbit · 25/08/2016 11:40

Or he could get it cut?

Or go to a different school?

Or you could home educate?

Lots of choices

GeneralBobbit · 25/08/2016 11:39

He has to put it up in a ponytail and not have it loose ?