My son MUST have HAIR CUT for secondary school!

Schools often have rules about long hair being loose - at our school is absolutely must be tied back for science, home economics, technical and PE. No exceptions. So unless your son is prepared to have a neat ponytail, pleat or bun with no loose strands hanging out, he will have to have it cut.

it is sexist if the girls ar eallowed long hair

go to the local papers an mp

i love long hair on males nothing wrong with it

@Navyandwhite - "Comeback the school have said hair no longer than collar and the OP has complained and appealed but the school isn't budging."

Are girls allowed hair longer than their collar, OP?

If so, here's what you should do. Send DS in with his hair in a ponytail (covering bases for safety and headlice) and a letter addressed solely to the head asking for a one on one meeting to discuss this. Ask for justification of such a discriminatory rule and why girls can have long hair, but boys can't.

If still unhappy, continue sending him with hair in ponytail and lodge a complaint/appeal with the LEA.

essentially, religious privilege should not supercede other rules. At my school someone was allowed to wear a religious symbol necklace in PE. Ridiculous. What was to stop me wearing a cross and saying "it's my faith"? Nothing at all.

I had hoped the world had moved on in 30 years.

Just "Only if he's a practising Sikh. "

so tell them he is. I mean seriously, if the things you believe in determine how you are allowed to wear your hair, something is very wrong.

also some of those lads won't be practising Sikhs, they're just wearing their hair that way due to parental pressure.

"Thankfully we have you to raise the ne t generation of cuntychops"

I love you, HoneyDragon!

Pendu Almost all schools allow religious exceptions to their uniform policy.

Although I'm not personally a fan of long hair on boys, I do think that suggestions like 'change school' or 'home educate' are a bollocks really.
Depending where you live, I strongly doubt there are necessarily any schools to change to (particularly 1 week before term starts), and home educate? Really?? The vast majority of people need the kids in school while they work to keep a roof over the family's head. Only on Mumsnet is home educate something I hear about!

Personally, assuming this is a fairly standard comp (not private or grammar or whatever) then if he really wants to keep if I would send him in with it in a tidy bun and see if they kick off. He needs to be on board though, as it might land him in trouble and get him a bad reputation with the school/teachers from the get go, which may be hard to shake and haunt him for the next 5 years.

Jack having one sex cut their hair and not the other is a stupid, pointless rule.

May as well say all girls have to bring in a 3" collapsible wigwam, but the boys don't. Just because. They'll still learn that pointless rules have to be followed.

Excellent post pointy

Oh and I'm a special snow flake

Bring back grammar schools and instill some proper discipline. We don't want to create a generation of long haired entitled snowflakes

Thankfully we have you to raise the ne t generation of cuntychops

Also to the posters saying - if you don't like the rules, home educate - jog on. Have a cup of tea pet, and get off mumsnet will you?

I don't agree with 'you can home educate' as an answer to this one either, but we're going to start folksy shit and ordering each other off the site when we disagree now, are we?

Sweary bun fights work just fine, thanks.

Ds looks far better with long hair than short.

SO WRONG.

Challenge it OP. He can have it in a ponytail if they're worried about nits. I work in a secondary school and I can say hand on heart I think this is bullshit. The girls can have their hair as long they like!

Also to the posters saying - if you don't like the rules, home educate - jog on. Have a cup of tea pet, and get off mumsnet will you? When the rules are a) RIDICULOUS and b) discriminatory, they're not there to be blindly followed.

It's a very sensible rule. Why should little boys go round looking like little girls? Life is confusing enough as it is.

You honestly can't have written that with serious intent? Are girls not allowed short hair or to wear trousers in case of confusion?

That's not just sexist but racist

No it isn't. Unless there is no provision for religious exception in the rules.

Firstly I will say that I just would not send my DC to a school that had such prescriptive rules on hair. I know of some where hair can't be too short either. I think hair should be allowed to be any way you want it as long as it is tied back for safety reasons when necessary.

However, you chose this school for your DS and you therefore agreed to the rules of the school. Move him elsewhere or get the hair cut.