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11yr old ds in tears over summer school.

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kissmethere · 22/07/2016 11:38

Ds's new secondary school have sent an email to invite him to 5 half days. He will be starting in September. This will take place in August.
He is flat out refusing and I do feel for him. They have liaised with his primary school and he has been part of groups throughout his primary school life for additional support which has done him the world of good.
I need to respond today to confirm his place but I feel like it's causing him so much upset at the thought of it I'm tempted to say no although I think he needs to do it. He's currently under cahms as last year he was so down about the pressure of year 6 he wasn't sleeping and was in tears every night.
It sounds very casual with activities revolving around maths and literacy. Lunch provided, no charge.
What do I do?

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noblegiraffe · 22/07/2016 11:45

If you don't want him to feel like he's got his way, then make an agreement with him that he doesn't have to do the summer school if he agrees to do the summer reading challenge at the library, and some maths practice on the Internet (or something like that)?

HeyMacWey · 22/07/2016 11:44

I'd accept it but not push him to go if he didn't want to.

A light touch approach sounds good, but if he changes his mind nearer to the time at least you've still got a place for him.

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kissmethere · 22/07/2016 11:43

I'm nearly in tears here myself. I don't want him to feel like he's got his way but at the same time yes his mental health is more important.

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kissmethere · 22/07/2016 11:42

I know that's what I want do. I want the best for him but who'd be jumping for joy over summer school?

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noblegiraffe · 22/07/2016 11:41

Bloody hell if he's under CAMHs and in tears then don't send him. It's not compulsory and his mental health is more important. If he's not well then he won't achieve whether he goes to summer school or not.

Emochild · 22/07/2016 11:39

Tell them you are on holiday

Your son needs a break

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