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Lazy child

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NewLife4Me · 10/06/2016 19:20

If you have or have had a lazy child what are you doing/ did you do to stop the laziness.
teachers say dd is lazy, they have strategies they will use at school, but she isn't bothered about the reputation of being lazy, bare minimum will do.
She is like this with everything, not just school work.
there may be SEN, currently being assessed, but not sure this has anything to do with it as she is the same outside school.
Apart from leading by example and stop any laziness at home what can we do to help?

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NewLife4Me · 10/06/2016 21:38

Teen

Sorry, forgot to say she is a boarder, so although we do see homework occasionally it is usual for it to be done supervised at school.
There is no way she would do it unsupervised and that's the same with everything except music practice and hear she isn't really reaching her potential because of disorganisation. School are supporting her here.

I want to get it home to her that she needs to put more effort into her work so she can progress. Her teachers are happy with her but that's because she's gifted and doesn't think she has to do any work. It's infuriating.

I will definitely set a bit of homework during her holidays as she has over 8 weeks. So will take your advice, many thanks.

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TeenAndTween · 10/06/2016 19:44

If it is can't be bothered then at home I would be reviewing homework and sending it back if not done thoroughly.
So upfront I would look at homework and set expectations (e.g. I expect you to write 2 sides for this essay, or do 20 of these maths questions)
Then I would check it has been done.
If not sufficient I would send it back to be redone, stressing that it is now going to take even longer because they didn't bother properly first time.
And repeat until they get the message.

I would also be asking that teacher sends home to be done any work that didn't get done in school due to same attitude.

If it is some form of SEN then it needs a different approach. My DD1 has dyspraxia, and her inability to write much is very much 'can't do' rather than 'won't do'. In that situation, I would support to enable achievement. So for DD we sat and discussed written work, and I helped her with structures, and then she did the work. Or sometimes she dictated, I wrote it down, and she then copied it out. She struggles with other things such as tidying her room as she can't see the mess, so books all askew drive me crazy but she doesn't even notice.

It can be difficult to tell the difference, as the 'cants' can pretend it is 'wont'. (My DD2 has a tendency to do this, but is improving on this).

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