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Help, everything's gone wrong

28 replies

BoatyMcBoat · 04/05/2016 16:33

When dd went into secondary, she was a very bright, conscientious, hard working academic child.

Now, in lower 6th, the Head has just told her she's lazy and will fail at life.

She still works hard. She's still clever. She is miserable and demoralized. She has officially dropped two subjects, and I'm considering just taking her out of school altogether and sending her elsewhere in September. I'm told I'm not allowed to.

She is so miserable.

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VeryPunny · 04/05/2016 16:42

WTF at "not allowed to?" I'd be moving her as soon as possible. Might also help reinforce that she is not the problem here!

goshnotme · 04/05/2016 16:40

I think it is definitely worth phoning round other schools to see if they have places. I am furious on your behalf that a headteacher should think it's ok to say something like to her. These things become self-fulfilling prophecies you see - demoralise a person with already low self-esteem enough and they will fail. Of course.

Find another school/establishment/method of education that captures your child's interests, and I'm sure she'll find that bright engaged part of herself again.

Husbanddoestheironing · 04/05/2016 16:39

I'm not in a position to suggest what you can do practically- hopefully someone who knows the rules will be along soon to help, but I can reassure you that we had a similar problem in about yrs 9-11 with my step-daughter. It wasn't her, it was the school and 12 years later I would like to take in her post-grad qualification (and happy, promising career) and rub it in their faces. She was saved by a move somewhere else mid-6th form. Keep believing in her Flowers for you both