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problems with daughter and teachers.. help/advice please

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suzieQuattro70 · 22/04/2016 21:42

Any advice welcome...

So daughter is 15 and in year 10 at school. She is doing ok with her GCSE subjects.

The problem we have is with her behaviour in school. I have to attend a meeting with the year head next week to talk about her behaviour points this school year currently at 55. Daughter had been told she will get an exclusion for 2 days. Behaviour points are for uniform, being late, forgetting rules and equipment, truanting pe, one incident of swearing, make up and generally messing about and chatting in class.

Whilst I don't condone her behaviour it does seem a bit harsh to exclude her. She has never been violent and by my reckoning a third of the points are for forgetting rulers and other minor things.

We have talked to her about it and she feels she can do nothing right and is singled out. I have explained to her that if she just behaved she could save herself all this aggro but she says school teachers wind her up and go overboard at the smallest thing.

Does anybody else have experience s similar and can they exclude her?

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starry0ne · 22/04/2016 21:57

Is this the first meeting, have there been previous consequences...I guess while you say minor.. that is an awful long list of things she has done wrong. I am guessing they are looking for a way to change her behaviour.

I think the fact you write teachers it is a whole group of teachers who singe her out? I am seriously doubting that

PurpleDaisies · 22/04/2016 21:51

This should say I'm glad the school it taking it seriously for your daughter's sake before she falls to far behind and gets poorer gcse grades than she should.

PurpleDaisies · 22/04/2016 21:50

Whilst I don't condone her behaviour it does seem a bit harsh to exclude her. She has never been violent and by my reckoning a third of the points are for forgetting rulers and other minor things.

I should be upfront and say I'm a teacher. Constant low level back chat, mucking about and swearing is incredibly disruptive in classes. Kids always say they're being unfairly singled out-it's a standard defence. They very very rarely are.

I'm glad the school it taking it seriously. Presumably it hasn't got to exclusion without a detention or some other warning along the way. If the school policy is clear I think it's fair enough to exclude her. Sorry you're in this situation though, teenagers can be really tough at times.

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