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Feeling fantastic about OUR choice of school

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voddiekeepsmesane · 17/01/2016 19:46

So DS has just informed me after a lovely chat that secondary school is sooo much better than primary. He is in year 7 at a fairly high achieving school in our local area having got in through 11+ tests.

At primary he was constantly teased and ostracised for being the non-sporty ( read not football obsessed) high achiever.

In his new school he feels that he is just one of the "normal" as most are high achieving. This is not a boast it is what it is and he is what he is.

I just needed to say "yippee" in a place other than real life as no one that I know from primary gets it and I don't know the secondary lot enough yet.

DS had a tough time for the last 4 years but at last has found friends and a school that gets him as me and his father have always done. I am glad he didn't conform to the majority and stuck to his individuality. I think it will serve him well as he gets older

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voddiekeepsmesane · 17/01/2016 21:25

Thanks Lucsy yeah the grammar thing was a red herring really ...it is more the happiness that he is in the right school for him now and the bulling ( in the main) has ceased and he is happy for the first time at school since he was 7

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MidnightVelvetthe4th · 17/01/2016 21:24

Lovely to hear this op, I'm glad he's happy Smile My ds is also non sporty and has trouble at primary for being nerdy, we are not in a grammar area and find out in 6 weeks which school he got. Fingers crossed its not the sports academy down the road!

I'm happy for you all and mn is absolutely the right place to be able to yipee about it Grin

Lurkedforever1 · 17/01/2016 21:23

I didn't say it was inappropriate, and I genuinely did mean I'm happy for you.

I just meant it might not end well because the anti grammar and the hypocrites won't see it as great. Really wasn't having a go on my own behalf.

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voddiekeepsmesane · 17/01/2016 21:23

Thanks Rudy

Yes I agree about football and also being high achiever sorry didn't mean to infer that both were exclusive. Just said it because it is less ordinary to not be keen on football

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Lucsy · 17/01/2016 21:21

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voddiekeepsmesane · 17/01/2016 21:11

Thanks Arfarfanarf

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voddiekeepsmesane · 17/01/2016 21:03

Wow have been on mumsnet for longer than most ( since 2007) and didn't think posting a positive message about a child finding a school that suits him after years of bullying was not appropriate under this heading. My bad huh

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Arfarfanarf · 17/01/2016 20:59

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Lurkedforever1 · 17/01/2016 20:57

Personally, I'm happy for you and hope he continues to love it. Every child deserves an education that suits them and to enjoy the social side. It's also great as a parent to know you made the right choice, and any angst or second thoughts were worth it.

However if you wanted somewhere to share your happiness, this probably isn't it. I have no doubt it will attract some negative comments about the 11+, some of whom won't recognise the hypocrisy of the fact they are equally happy because they have brilliant comprehensives, despite the negative counter effect of other people's kids being at shit or unsuitable comprehensives.

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voddiekeepsmesane · 17/01/2016 20:56

I sense a bit of bitterness bojorojo. Indeed we are lucky but the point of my post is celebrating the fact that some children can be bullied and unhappy for years and having the right school for them really helps

We are always on the back foot as a family as we are on full benefits as dp is blind and I am his carer. We don't have money to tutor or go private so yeah I am bloody thankful for our son that we live in a grammar area.

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bojorojo · 17/01/2016 20:46

Pity the child that hasn't got the 11 plus and is in an underperformance school that does not suit them for the next 5 years or so. Well done for having a child that managed to get to your choice of school and for living where there is a grammar school. At least someone has a happy ending. Better times ahead indeed.