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Y8 DD being read sexually explicit fiction

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Cabbagesandcustard · 14/07/2015 21:30

A very dominant thick girl in my Y8 DD's class has got hold of a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey and has been reading it out loud to classmates at school, during break and lunchtimes. I'm pretty relaxed about sexual stuff in general and realise that we were all sniggering at Judy Blume's "Forever" at a similar age back in the 80s - but I'm less than thrilled at the idea my 13 year old being exposed to BDSM at school (as, I'm sure, are the parents of many other class members who are strictly religious - it's an all girls school with a very high proportion of ethnic minority students).
Should I speak to the Head of Year or am I overreacting?

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spanieleyes · 14/07/2015 23:11

Why cant she just walk away?

Janethegirl · 14/07/2015 23:08

Year 8 is 13 years old? Not exactly a young child, could be married in 3 years or pregnant now! 50 shades is very vanilla, have you read it Camel? I have and it's very poorly written. Most Black Lace books are better written and more explicit. 50 shades had better marketing for a much poorer product IMO.

CamelHump · 14/07/2015 23:03

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Janethegirl · 14/07/2015 23:00

Personally I don't think it's worth speaking to the school. Waste of time as the book is freely available and sold in supermarkets, it's not like it's the Marquis de Sade which used to be available in WHSmiths ( no idea if it still is).

Pico2 · 14/07/2015 22:59

I'd speak to someone at the school as well as discussing the issues with your DD.

CamelHump · 14/07/2015 22:54

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Davros · 14/07/2015 22:49

Deep Throat! Phnarr

IrenetheQuaint · 14/07/2015 21:52

Judith Krantz was our fiction of choice in Year 8.

Can you use it as an opening to talk to her about the dangers of arrogant controlling men and the importance of consent? That would be much more of a concern to me than a bit of sexually explicit filth.

Janethegirl · 14/07/2015 21:43

Maybe one way of encouraging reading in the not so keen kids though!!

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 14/07/2015 21:42

God we all had books that were passed around and fell open at the juicy bits. I agree with everyone else that I'd be more upset that she was being exposed to such appalling writing. And abusive relationships being passed off as romantic. Sit down and talk to her about why it's drivel.

Janethegirl · 14/07/2015 21:42

The more you try to restrict such reading material, the more attractive it seems to young teenagers.

StupidBloodyKindle · 14/07/2015 21:36

We read bits of Lace at that age Grin
I would be worried purely because the writing is so so bad.
Oh my. Talking goddess vaginas and the like.
There wasn't that much sex or BDSM in it, was there?
Up to you. My kid read it on the sly. She thought it was utter shite.

Janethegirl · 14/07/2015 21:35

My dd at that age would read anything she could get her hands on. However 50 shades is so badly written I'm not sure whether she'd have read it all or got bored.

I never restricted her and have never regretted it. Now as an adult, she still reads anything.....from The Illiad to mills &boon.

However she told me not to bother with 50 Shades as all her friends had told her it was crap Grin. I did read it and it is really tame!