AIBU to be pissed off at ds's sports day allocation?

Plus PE teachers often have a deep hatred of dyspraxic kids. I've yet to see a teacher bully so done for being bottom of the class at maths

It's quite easy to hide being bottom of the maths class. No such luck at sports day.

You can't compare Maths/ English GCSE with mucking about on a sports field doing sports you are no good at in front of everyone.

001 it's less about giving up and more about not wanting to get the piss taken out of you!

One could argue that if it's OK to say if you're going to be last in sports day, then skive off. But if you're going to be bottom of the maths class... skive off? Err I'm probably gonna fail my English GCSE, how humiliating... no bother, just skive off.

and sweet what is wrong with encouraging people?

Do we not all do it in everyday life? For example, when your kiddo is struggling riding a bike, do we not go "Come on! you can do it! don;t give up" that kind of thing?

Or if we;re doing a charity run, do we not encourage people to get to the end - despite it being hard? I know I've been that person at the end of a 5k dragging myself along with the help of others.

(i think it might have been a 'last minute' jobby)

just to put a different spin on things - ds1 who is dyspraxic was given no activity at all at Sports Day two years running (they get picked by class sports captains and he wasn't) Their Sports Days are only for the really sporty children and the others just watch. A whole day just spent sitting watching others compete. He would have given his eye teeth to be actually in an event, any event. I kept Ds2 off completely when it was his Sports Day in the same school and he hadn't been picked either.

Year 7 he was frustrated, Year 8 he was humiliated and in tears not being in anything (he thought they might fit him in but they never did) and Year 9 he just took a book and quite enjoyed bumming around doing nothing in a field.. This year they did an engineering challenge instead not much good at engineering either but it was fun..

The whole thing stinks. Ask your ds what HE wants to do; maybe the shot put might intrigue him and he won't find it as humiliating as you think.. At least they are involving him.

sweet yes I have, I got entered into the high-jump for some odd reason, I could barely jump over a hurdle, let alone the high jump bar.

But I still took part, came last, just kinda... flopped into the bar and no... I wasn't humiliated

001 etc I wonder if our kids are at the same school? DSs school is exactly like that, everyone cheers on everyone because yes, it's very exciting cheering the winner but they recognise that it's the taking part that counts, especially for those kids for whom finishing the race is an achievement in itself. That said it is a very small school where everyone knows everyone else and I suspect in s larger secondary school it would be completely different.
In your position OP I would beinded to keep him off. I don't say that lightly as my DS1 has similar issues to yours and I would generally support him doing his best regardless. However you know your son best, if he is going to feel humiliated then sod it, it's not worth it.

My DS1 is only but is also dyspraxic and DH and I have already had the conversation about keeping him off in the future. He's pretty shit at physical things and he is well aware of that already. We do practise lots of activities but I'd not want him to be put off physical activities because he's embarrassed. So yes, I can completely understand where you're coming from.

Sorry, forgot to say, yes, keep him off. He has enough to contend with.

This lad's in y10 not y5 I think asking to do a 'helping teachers set up' job is going to exacerbate his problems if the worry is being laughed at.

I wouldn't go in all guns blazing but I would very reasonably ask for a copy of the assessment which was made taking into account his reasonable adjustments which resulted in this allocation.

We have had 'issues' with the PE dept - his teacher phoned me in Y7 to complain that he was taking too long to get changed and that his motor skills were very poor - well durr, tell me something I don't know ..,

Ha! Reminds me of the English teacher who told DD2 off for spelling "dyslexic" incorrectly. (She's quite good at shot put, though.)

I used to chose the field events, as they took place in a far corner and no-one cared. Then I hurt my back playing rugby outside of school and from then on didn't participate. Instead I helped run the high jump, measuring and resetting the poles.

Could you suggest he does something like that in future?

00100001 you have clearly never been utterly incompetent at sport.

That's not encouraging behaviour, cheering on the person who is last, it is (a) humiliating if you didn't want to be there at all in the first place therefore would like to just get it over and done without fuss and without drawing attention to your failure, and (b) completely nonsensical to people who don't see finishing a sporting event as any kind of achievement because they're rubbish at it and find it weird that it's compulsory.

OP just keep him home for the day and tell the school why. Given most schools' general sensitivity to variance in academic ability and the availability of extra support in that area, it's very odd that the sport challenged should just have their incompetence rubbed in their face in the manner of a 19th century boys boarding school

I have a child with ASD, dyspraxia hyper mobility and low muscle tone too. Keep him off. My ds does judo, swimming, indoor climbing and football and works his socks off to become proficient at them. It took a LOT to get him confident enough to do these activities and I certainly wouldn't be opening him up to ridicule by forcing him into the situation you describe OP. No chance.

Have any of them ever done shot put before? If not, he probably won't be at a disadvantage. Lack of technique will be just as much of a problem as lack of brawn. Maybe that's why they have done, it might give him more a level playing field than other options.

When DS2 was at first school when he was in a sports day race as soon as the winner passed the line he just stopped and walked back to his seat.

Of course the last person in a race always gets the biggest cheer but the op is worried about her ds being humiliated - in that case she wouldn't want him to be the last child in a track event.
Honestly though - who bothers to watch the shot put unless their own child is in the event? I will happily watch other peoples' children running round a track and jumping over hurdles etc; at least there's some excitement in that - but shot put, on the far side of the field - the op is worrying about nothing.

What on earth is all this talk of sports allocation? I've never heard of this but I'm foreign. How silly to not be able to choose for your strengths (or lack of!). In my day all the rubbish PE people like me chose three 'easy ' events which was widely agreed to be shot put, discus and javelin.
I really do despair of PE in state schools here...

I think just keep him off, unless you can get the PE teacher to see sense.

the one kid was elated when he finished his 800m with the encouragement of pretty much the whole school