AIBU to be pissed off at ds's sports day allocation?

Dd was chosen to do shotput at athletics having never done it before. She was nervous but it actually turned out OK because a) no one was really watching (not like coming last in a race). b. , no one else had really done it before and c) the ball is not a proper heavy Olympic style ball, She is tall and has long arms so she actually threw it pretty far.

I'm trying to write a coherent response to ReallyTired and failing, so I think it will suffice to say I'm disgusted at the ignorance

The lack of understanding on this thread is shocking.

Ha,ha Really tired we never see hide nor hair of our Senco.

My dd has hypermobility,sensory issues and possible dyspraxia. Sports 'week'(oh the joy) is an absolute nightmare for her and heart breaking as a parent. Seeing her sob the other side of a field when you can't do anything and the upset at home as to why she has to be so "useless" is shit.You have no idea.

Really feel for you op. I don't think it'll be a malicious allocation but I would ring and get it changed if needs be. My dd was allocated the swimming gala( even though she repeatedly told them she didn't want to do it) and I simply sent a note in saying she wasn't doing it and why. She said the whistle going off was scary and all the screaming,coming last and sinking was horrible.After two nights of sobbing I'm afraid I did what was best for my child. I see no educational benefit of forcing her into something she finds scary and humiliating. You wouldn't force a child struggling with spelling into a spelling bee in front of hundreds of screaming parents and children.

The lack of empathy re kids who struggle with PE never fails to amaze me.

ODFO ReallyTired. Spoilt? You know fuck all love. Spoilt children milk the attention. Children with ASD hate it.I hate the fact that when DD is having a meltdown I am telling her to go away and calm down. When she's physically hurt I can't touch her. She needs to go and stop her senses.
Routine and anxiety are part of it but they are only part of it.

Camel are you a parent at the same school or are you making assumptions?
My NT dc would absolutely be told to give it a whirl. And probably suck it up if he was crap. It is a parallel universe.

What an ignorant post ReallyTired. Hopeless to even bother addressing it so I won't bother. Suffice to say you sound utterly clueless and you should be embarrassed to have posted it.

I think the op is using special needs as an excuse. Having ASD is not an excuse to be a spoilt brat and get out of educational experiences you don't like. Using ASD as an excuse to bunk sports day is the sort of behaviour that gives people with autism a bad repruation. What kind of lesson are you teaching him that he can get out of stuff he doesn't like by throwing a sickie.

I can see that a child with severe autism may well struggle with lack of routine on sports day or anxiety. Is the anxiety of not doing well the op or her son's? He might not realise he is useless at shot put if he has never done it before. Shock horror! He might even enjoy it. No one will see op son throwing his shot put. The other boy from all accounts is also useless at games. Perhaps the pe staff are trying to hide both boys away in the corner to avoid humiliation for both. Not all pe teachers are nasty.

If there are real reasons for avoiding sports day then they should be discussed with the school senco.

Fucksake. DD has never done competitive stuff. She just doesn't get it. She likes to be good at stuff but the relative ability is irrelevant. If I say she's good at something that's fine. Demonstrating that in public is anathema. She has a fabulous singing voice. Will she sing in public? No. She's badly co-ordinated and hates PE. She has ASD.
They don't make children with other disabilities show off their inability. Long jump for the child in a wheelchair?

A friend of mine was always forced to play rugby at (grammar) school - he was nearly 6" and weighed about 8 stone.

Just as well he was a good runner, he just used to run away if the ball came anywhere near him. Tackles from other players meant he'd be covered in bruises for a week. If he'd ended up at the bottom of a scrum he'd have been squashed completely flat.

Never picked for running though...

No. Let's all take into account special needs that might affect how a child/person should be treated. I can't think why this seems to be SO hard for SO many to comprehend .

Let's all second guess the teachers because our children are special.

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Field events are usually tucked away in a corner - hardly anyone will be watching and throwing a shot put is over in seconds; your ds can be involved without humiliation

Also, if the school have never taught them shot putt in a lesson (do you really monitor the content of every PE lesson that closely?) then everyone in that part of the competition will be in the same boat / be having the same difficulty.

Like others have said, in my dcs school it's not the PE dept that decide who is doing each event anyway - it's the person (pupil) picked to pick the team that year.

I wouldn't keep any of my dc off school because they weren't going to do well at something - what kind of a lesson does that teach them?

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How nice for you to have survived untouched, 001, and to decide that because you're fine everyone else is.

Personally I can still flash back to a dreadful sports event when I was about 8, and the resentment I still feel because my mum made me go and then made me keep going at the event when I was desperate to stop.

Fuck "having a go". Not everyone likes sport.

People with AS will have a life time of sticking out, being ridiculed, being looked at, laughed at, left out and being humiliated. I sometimes wonder if non autistic people truly understand how utterly soul destroying it is to grow up with the isolation and loneliness that is autism. As an adult with AS I would never put a child with AS through the humiliation that is sports day if they don't want to do it.

if it means that much to you OP, just ring up the school and lie and tell them he's sick.

OK, I shall go and organise some therapy for myself for failing abysmally at the high jump as obviously it was humiliating

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