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School residential trip dilemma

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redbeard · 04/07/2015 16:53

Hi, my DD 12 (asd ) was due to go on a 5 day trip on Mon, however , she has been on and off for a few weeks as to whether or not she wanted to go.

I asked her to give me a final answer on Friday , so I could inform school if she wasn't going to go , as they leave early and would be expecting her.

She was adamant she didn't want to go, and so I phoned school to tell them she would not be going.

However now she is upset and want's to go, I have said that it's too late , she made her decision etc, but my question is , will they have cancelled her place ?

I cannot contact anyone, and they leave early , any suggestions anyone?

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redbeard · 04/07/2015 17:43

Trip leaves 5 am, I did think of turning up anyway ,was wondering what the possibility of her place being cancelled was.

I am just as bloody indecisive Grin

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ladygracie · 04/07/2015 17:39

Could you email someone? Mosy of the staff at my dd's school check emails over the weekend.

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redbeard · 04/07/2015 17:34

There were still places on the trip, no refund would have been given, I knew and accepted that.

She would have been ok on the trip , I think. The trip leader knows her well and a meeting was held to make sure she could be supported enough to be able to go.

The problem was all the people she thought were going had actually dropped out some time ago.

I think , she has to just accept her decision now , I just feel incredibly sad for her now, these things are hard enough for her, and I feel like I should have known it was just her getting anxious. Thanks all for replying.

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LynetteScavo · 04/07/2015 17:29

*need to be prepared to be disappointed

LynetteScavo · 04/07/2015 17:29

What time does the trip leave?

If you only told them on Friday she didn't want to go, I can't see an issue with her being allowed to go if you turned up on Monday....but she'd need to be disappointed.

I imagine the uncertainty of that would be too much for her though? I think you need to make the decision for her.

I would have either told her she was going, as it was all arranged then informed the school on the Monday if she really didn't want to or tell her now she can't go.

Yesterday you both felt not going was the right decision. You sound as indecisive as each other. Grin

TheHappyCamper · 04/07/2015 17:23

They may have offered the place to another pupil if there were reserves?

If not, and you weren't going to be offered a refund, she could possibly still go, however I would e cautious as she's changed her mind a lot already. What if she wants to come home early? Could you get her?

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redbeard · 04/07/2015 17:19

I know , I agree, I feel bad as I should have seen this coming and just insisted she still go , as I normally would. The asd makes it so impossible for her to make decisions sometimes .

It was the fact that I know she has no proper friends on this trip , and I am not totally sure the people she has been placed with are really her friends that swayed me into thinking it might be for the best if she didn't go anyway.

I just feel I have acted too hastily.

I have no emergency contact no.s , just the school no. and with it being a weekend there is obviously no one there.

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LynetteScavo · 04/07/2015 17:07

I don't think MN can answer your question.

I would be firm with your DD and tell her it's absolutely too late. She's made her decision. What if she changed her mind after being on the trip for one day?

LIZS · 04/07/2015 17:06

No emergency contact no? She needs to learn that she may be too late and has to accept that.

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