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How much would you sympathise with dd in this situation?

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Takver · 10/06/2015 21:37

She's complained to me a number of times that their science teacher frequently comments on several of the girls' personal appearance. Apparantly he tends to 'pick on' specific girls, particularly the - for want of a better word - pretty/popular ones (ie not the geeky ones!) if they aren't trying hard in class.

DD is very clear that he's never singled her out, (unsurprisingly since she's ms science geek) - but she says that she knows some of the girls he does pick out are already funny about their weight, and she feels it's unhelpful if a teacher calls them 'fat and stupid', even in jest.

So far I've suggested that she sits quiet and says nothing, since she has many more years of being in his class - but would you be more sympathetic - and if so, any helpful suggestions??? (I'm sure he's trying to be lighthearted and funny, and just jolly them along, but it does sound like not the best approach with teen girls.)

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Takver · 10/06/2015 21:47

I don't see any reason for her not to, CocktailQueen - she's always said that he's been fine to her, she likes science, and enjoys his lessons generally.

DD sees the school counsellor for other reasons - I had thought of suggesting that she might mention it to her in confidence (she's excellent, and I'm sure could mention it tactfully to the teacher in question without naming names)

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AtiaoftheJulii · 10/06/2015 21:46

Er yes, what they said! I certainly wouldn't be telling her to be quiet and put up with it!

Softfriend · 10/06/2015 21:44

I'd be shouting very loudly too in a calm polite I want action manner!

CocktailQueen · 10/06/2015 21:43

Completely unprofessional and unacceptable. I'd contact the school. But can you be sure your dd is telling the truth?

BitOfFun · 10/06/2015 21:42

I didn't close my brackets, I'm that cross Grin

BitOfFun · 10/06/2015 21:40

Really? I'd hit the bloody roof and complain to the HoY/whoever is appropriate and see that he's pulled up on it (ask to keep your daughter's name out of it, given that he doesn't seem averse to victimising pupils. That's a disgraceful way to talk to young women trying to get an education.

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