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Waiting list....

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 11:14

I was just wondering how often I can phone / email to check on a school waiting list ...without seeming neurotic...which I am about schools as every parent is! lol! But I don't want to appear that way obviously :-)

My daughter is 9th place on a waiting list which I last checked a week ago...is too much to check again now? How often do you think is acceptable?

Thanks in advance :-)

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VegasIsBest · 25/03/2015 13:30

"What other kind of calls / emails is an admissions officer in a school expecting for petes sake?!"

Well presumably the admissions officers have other things to do, rather than just telling people their position on the waiting list hasn't changed. They don't sit there for 10 months a year doing nothing.

I understand that this is hugely important, but why can't you rely on the admissions officer contacting you if and when a place becomes available?

Mintyy · 25/03/2015 13:26

I am in the same position as you Tiasmummy. I don't think the email you received from the school was unhelpful or snippy at all. I really think you just need to be realistic.

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 13:23

Mintty What some may perceive as pestering others perceive as just being an anxious parent. I wont be contacting them for a while anyway believe me!

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 13:20

CheekyBanana Thank you! Of course we don't want to be an annoyance but then we have faith that the school will be understanding...when they are not it a horrible feeling and off putting to boot! What other kind of calls / emails is an admissions officer in a school expecting for petes sake?!

I certainly will not be contacting said school for a while I can tell you. I hope you eventually get the news you are waiting for too :-)

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CheekyBanana · 25/03/2015 13:13

Hey Tiasmummy, I'm sharing your pain and know exactly how you must be feeling.

I was in a similar dilemma myself about whether to contact school on Monday gone. I bit the bullet and called - and swiftly regretted it. I'm now telling myself that I won't call again this month; and, by being patient there's at least some hope of getting the surprise phone call offering a place. In my warped state of stress, I think it's somehow nicer to receive the offer call from the school. I Imagine me calling the school: "yes, hello again mrs banana, I was going to call you later, if/ when I had a spare moment, to offer your son a place" doesn't have the same vibe I suppose.

Hang in there. Hoping you'll soon get the news that so many if us are so desperately waiting to hear.

Mintyy · 25/03/2015 12:41

I really don't think there is any point in pestering. How about you email or ring once a month? It's still 6 months to the start of term.

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 12:41

Unexpected - Her pointing out when I last emailed is not helpful. I don't see the point. I evidently know exactly when I last emailed so why point it out?

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Unexpected · 25/03/2015 12:39

I don't think her email was rude at all? You said her response was not helpful but how could she have made it more helpful - apart from manufacturing a school place for you?

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 12:37

Redskybynight I would have thought as an admissions officer she would be used to all the queries no matter how often they come in? Yes as humans too much of anything can be annoying but it is her job after all?

So.... saying "all parents are neurotic"..I am obviously not making a blanket statement about the whole of planet earth. I shall not be expecting you at the next NeuroticsRus meeeting.

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redskybynight · 25/03/2015 12:30

If everyone on the waiting list (and you're only 9th? So need quite a few people to move) rang up / emailed every few days I can see how it would get incredibly annoying. I think you have to accept that no news is bad news.

(and by the way all parents are not neurotic about schools)

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 12:21

ButterflySoHighUp I thought it was abrupt and to me it seems obvious she thinks I am some kind of annoyance for emailing again after one school week. Things can change rapidly with waiting lists so again, I don't know why she is pointing out when I last emailed. It is off putting...

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ButterflyUpSoHigh · 25/03/2015 12:13

That's a bit crap. Mine was always polite by phone and email. It gives a bad impression of the school.

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 12:09

Ok...so I emailed and have received a response.....basically I was told "It has only been 5 school days since your last email so I'am afraid not. All places have now been accepted and the school is now full for September 2015"

I don't think there was any need to point out how long it has been since my last email! This is an extremely anxious time for parents and I think she should understand that. The response was not helpful in my opinion.

Anybody have any opinions on the response I got? AIBU?

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Tiasmummy · 25/03/2015 11:32

ButterflyUpSoHigh I would of thought they were used to it too! But you know when you imagine their faces like "oh gosh its HER again"! lol! I am working up the courage to email again :-)

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ButterflyUpSoHigh · 25/03/2015 11:18

I rang or emailed weekly and didn't get moaned at. They are used to it I think.

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