Something happened on dd's school trip and unsure how to handle this

First thing you need to do is to get the police. Report all assaults and bullying.
Get in touch with the education department in your area. Do not let this drop. If a video has been posted onto facebook or sent around the school I would be demanding those kids were arrested for producing child pornography.

Kids need to know they cannot do this and they'll be serious consequences.

In must be hell for you sending your dd in to that school

Calling your dd bushy? What vile children.

1 your dd does not appear on the video at all , let alone naked

The OP can't be certain of this, until she has seen it. That's a pretty big leap of faith to take the school's word on this, considering how shit they've been about everything else.

I don't think posters are reading this correctly.

1 your dd does not appear on the video at all , let alone naked

2 A 13 year old boy came into the room and the girls filmed hiim coming in and shouting 'bushy'

OK the boy should aqbsolutely not have come into the girls room , although i don't expect he was expecting to be met by the sight of a naked girl.It sounds as though he was as shocked as she was.

The offending video has now been removed from facebook.I really think you are making a mountain out of a molehill.I am sure everyone of us has been accidentally walked in on at sometimes.It will all be forgot after the summer holidays.

I am not sure what the school has done wrong, they can patrol corridors, yes- but they just need to be called away to deal with an incident and a girl or boy sneaks by.

Don't phone the police or ofsted. Neither of those will help......

This isn't true. Please do call the police, on their non-emergency number 101.

Eh, um, my experience of residentials is that you do sit in the corridor to police children! The deputy head's reaction is bizarre. He is admitting thst he can't guarantee kid's safety......and that the kids felt so unsafe that they didn't get changed in their bedrooms! He also seemd to be passing the blame onto your child.

Don't phone the police or ofsted. Neither of those will help......but a letter to the governors outlining the events would be interesting. Pretty much your post here, actually.

I too suspect she wasn't actually in the video.

But a) the school are victim-blaming - saying she should have got changed in the bathroom, and b) admitting they are incapable of ensuring her, or any other pupils', safety because they aren't prepared to sit in the corridor all night.

And yes OFSTED would most certainly regard this as a safeguarding issue and be interested to talk to you.

I honestly think you need to ring the police now about the video. Social media is such that things can spread like wildfire and there is no guarantee that these images have been erased. The police should seize the phone at the very least and check.
The Dep Head sounds like a tool who just wanted to make nice but not actually DO anything. Take it further OP.

but that doesn't make the behaviour any more acceptable, especially if she was still identifiable. It may save her dignity but the incident still happened, there has been discussion post the trip and you may never be sure. Please don't let the school minimise this.

I remember being on school trips and we had a teacher (actually two thinking about it!) in the corridor for about 2 hours after lights out. And this was a "naice" school with no exclusions that I can remember in the six years I was there.

Kids will be kids, and yes they will try to get into places they shouldn't be, but that's what the teachers are there for - to stop them!

As for the changing in the toilets comment, words fail me!

No one would think you are one of "those" parents. You are trying to stop abusive behaviour towards your dd

Short of sitting in the corridor all evening

Well if that is what it takes to safeguard the children then that is bloody well what they should be fucking DOING. The trip is not a vacation for the teachers, FFS, they are on duty.

I think you need to establish the facts first OP (was there definitely a naked video of your DD) and then contact the police and OFSTED. I do believe this is a breakdown in the school's duty of care to safeguard your daughter, and they should be involved.

Keeping Children Safe in Education. Well they didn't keep her safe, did they? They let a naked video of her be posted on the internet. They let her be bullied and humiliated.

In this case I don't think you let her discomfort dictate your actions. She might want to brush it all under the carpet and try to forget about it now but I guarantee in the future it will bother her unless it gets dealt with.

You've had good advise already.
On my school residentials the teachers did sit outside in the corridors with a book and can of beer it must have been shit but it's what's needed sometimes

Definitely , or speak to the Children's Services department at your county council as they have also a responsibility for Safeguarding.

I can totally understand about not upsetting her further, but you do need to get to the bottom of it, and the police are best placed to do this. I really don't blame your DD in wanting to forget it, but the problems are out there already.

I, too, am unimpressed with the school, both that the deputy has no knowledge of a really serious incident concerning his school, and by the bullshit victim blaming he has done.

Good luck, OP, and my best to your daughter.

Completely agree, phone the police. I would be making an appointment to see the head. I would want to know what is happening to the boy and the other one who assaulted her. It's not the fact that he saw her naked - unfortunately these things happen and the deputy head is right to a certain extent but then to bully her about it is completely unacceptable. Most teenage boys would have or should have legged it out of the room normally turning bright red and it never mentioned again. Exclusion and parents called in.

I've worked at a school with a poor reputation for behaviour but all the incidents you've described would lead to inclusions and exclusions and meetings with their parents before they are allowed back in class. Also some of the behaviour you described would in some schools lead to permanent exclusions. It seems like the school has a bullying problem and instead of confronting it are sweeping it under the carpet. You are certainly not that parent and in most schools, SLT would be doing everything to placate you in the hope that you wouldn't phone Ofsted.

I'd raise holy hell.

You have every right to demand answers and action. I agree that you should report this to the police if you aren't satisfied.

I also agree that changing schools might be a good idea, depending what your options are. None of it is your dd's fault, but she might be relieved to have a fresh start.

I agree with the above posters, definitely looks as though there is an element of victim blaming. It is highly unacceptable to suggest your Dd changes in the bathroom. It is also utterly wrong to say that they cannot enforce the no opposite sex in rooms rule. What were the adults doing to allow that behavior to go on? I would seriously be considering the police and Ofsted. Your poor Dd and you it must be horrible to have to deal with this

Also inform the school that Snapchat doesn't just disappear into the ether - Snapchat keep the images. I would be going nuclear now, speaking to the police, the LEA and Ofsted.

I can't believe he didn't know all the details,if he was there. I presume there are strict rules In school about this sort of thing so why are they different when away.

I'd be going higher /police/Ofsted

Definitely phone the police. Absolutely. Now.
I would hope they would visit the boy and his parents at his home and let him know how totally unacceptable this behaviour was.

The school also needs to perhaps arrange a visit either by a police officer or a specially trained advisor to give a talk on the perils of Internet sex.

Personally, I wouldn't move schools as this kind of thing follows you around, and I think if she stays where she is and gets the support of police & school there is no need to move.

I think your DD would want to see strong evidence of support from you on this one.