Being placed on report

Oh chunder, if you're going to troll don't do it in a five year old thread. Honestly, do you know nothing of social media?

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Don't worry, my son was put on report for doing graffiti on the walls of his school. Us parents need to take report booklets with a pinch of salt, schools are extremely sensitive to our little cherubs expressing themselves, which is healthy!!

According to my little angel, it was part of his Art coursework that he was completing on the school walls with the spray can (we 100% believe him). Unfortunately the headteacher did not see it this way and apprehended my poor little darling. myself and my S.O were both horrified as the school was suppressing little james' art skills and his passion on the subject by punishing him for expressing his love for Art.

I'm doing supply so see lots of different reports, generally it's like a copy of their time table and they have a number of tasks to do each lesson such as arrive on time, do the work asked, the sort of thing that they should be doing anyway.

The teacher ticks the boxes to say if they have or have not done what has been asked and then signs it.

At the end of the week it is taken back to who ever issued it to a) see general behaviour and b) see if there is a pattern eg behaves in all but one subject or is falling asleep in lessons before lunch.

As for a teacher hating a group, really I have not got time. I do hate the behaviour of some students, particularly the ones who stop others from learning.

I did a one day cover a few weeks ago and had severe problems with one boy who was removed from the class. As he was being removed he shouted, "Why do the supply teachers always pick on me?" er how am I supposed to know?

There should be a school policy on this and it is probably on the school website.

Sometime it is only the report that deters some children disrupting the learning of others. The report (should be) given to the teacher at the start of the lesson. If the child does start to disrupt others, then merely looking at he report or picking it up without interrupting the flow of the lesson can avoid learning being affected. Dismaying when parents are not supportive - how will that child cope in the world of work where the parents have no concept of appropriate behaviour to instil in them?
And yes, they often complain - 'she is picked on - others were .... etc etc' Tell that to the police when you are stopped for speeding 'All my mates do it and get away with it, unfair to pick on me, I refuse to be ticketed.'

you cannot 'refuse' for your daughter to be on report

Hello ednamode. I think you are over-reacting a bit. There is no point getting worked up until you know what is going on. As others have said, there are several reasons why she might be on report. My DD is almost permanently on report for poor organisation and not handing in homework. It is always done but it gets lost between her bag and the teacher. Don't ask me how ... But there you are. They are trying to help her. Now she has to email her tutor the homework which is done on the computer and it is helping. Think of a report being a method of monitoring on the part of the school, which is what you'd expect, isn't it? It is not always a punishment.

If my child was placed on report i wouldn't automatically assume she was being singled out.
She sounds a bit of a pain tbh.

Speak to the school properly when you can because when you speak to your child you are only getting her side of the story.

She would refuse to go to Detention? Are you for real?
You should be supporting the school if they think her attitude is shit.
How about being annoyed with her iand not the school then maybe she wouldn't be in this situation at all.

Can I suggest you talk to the acting head of year first. You really need to hear from the school why she is being placed on report.

she would have refused to go to detention if she felt unfairly treated
And you think that is ok? Says it all.

I'm a Head of Year.
Where I am uniform infringements wouldn't get you on report, but rudeness to staff would.
I'd invite you to a meeting to discuss matters. What I'd say would depend on circumstances, but things could well be different to what your dd has chosen to tell you.
Remember that the staff want to help and support you and your dd. It's better to work with them.

Oh dear. Why would you even think about refusing to have her on report? If my child decided they didn't want to go to detention because they didn't think it was fair I would be giving them a swift kick up the backside. The report will be a card with a few targets to reach everyday such as being polite in each lesson, being on time, contributing to class discussions or whatever, the teacher of each class will have to put a tick or cross for each target and at the end of the day they are added up to see if they reached the required amount of ticks. From what you say it may be because she is a little over confident in standing up for her rights and likes to tell the teachers how it is. You kind of need to roll with it and try not to argue your daughters human rights with the school.

Your dd cannot use 'other children do x' as an excuse for her doing x when x is breaking the school rules. She needs to forget about what other children are doing and follow the rules if she wants to stay out of trouble. When children try this 'you're picking on me' line, they are usually deaf to anyone else ever being told off.

No, you can't refuse your DD going on report, you and yout DD can't refuse your DD doing detentions, all that will happen is that the refusal will cause an escalation in sanctions.

You do need a face to face meeting with the school as if your DD is going on report you should know what for and what her targets are. But don't go in assuming its a crock of shit and your poor DD is a victim, hear them out first. And don't you try to use other children doing x as an excuse for your DD. If her height is an issue buying uniform, then point that out and ask them for a reasonable solution so that your DD can stop breaking the rules.

Oh op. You sound like a nightmare parent. Bet your kid is the same.

You cannot refuse a report - and at my school refusal of a parent to cooperate with this (e.g. signing report etc.) would end up with student in isolation and parent being asked to look into another school.

Here uniform is part of behaviour, and so can (and does) result in reports. Failure to wear uniform correctly constitutes defiance.

I have a feeling this is not going to end well - by telling your daughter not to go to detentions you are encouraging defiance and unfairly setting her in the middle between you and the school. In the past at my school a similar situation has resulted in the child being p. excluded.

You need to tell your DD to toe the line and order some proper skirts (most uniform shops will order in special sizes). In the meantime agree with the school that you are sorting the skirt and can she wear trousers/tights for a limited time.

You then need to organise a meeting with HOY to calmly get to the bottom of the problems and agree a way forward.

DS has been on report frequently, and it has helped him to control his behaviour. The school have been fantastic and always email me with updates and their reasons for the decisions to put him on report as well as the targets he needs to set. I need to know what his behaviour is like in school so that we can set up any sanctions or rewards at home too. I'd be pretty annoyed if the school didn't communicate with me, especially after trying to set up a meeting.

That said, leaving him 'on report' for weeks on end has a very negative effect. They all watch him like a hawk and he can't seem to cough in class without being bollocked now.

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Don't beat yourself up because you're wrapped up in real life.. kids need to be fed and housed, that is important and when you have a lot on your plate it's just the way it is.

However, refusing detention would get put on report in my sons school.. refusing is usually not dished out calmly by a 14 yr old, they may be at the end of their tether with her.

have you told the school about any past problems so she can be issued with a time out card? You really need to go in and speak to them.. was anything not said at her last target setting day?

Most 14 year olds do not know how to respond in a way to that sort of situation that allows them to remain polite and courteous. They tend to become rude and aggressive. Many parents would tell their children that if they have such an issue it is best to accept it calmly then explain all when they get home so the parent can take it further. It is just as important to teach children about manners and respect as anything else. I have been in/seen similar situations where children have been unforgivably rude and aggressive and said that their mum will sort it out. Would you still sort it out if she did the same to a police officer? Or her boss?

I think you're long overdue a meeting with school.

You need to listen carefully to their take on your daughter's behaviour.

If she is routinely refusing to follow school rules, then, ultimately, you need to make a decision to either support the school or remove your daughter.

I imagine they'll be happy with either outcome tbh.

Being on report is not always a punishment. DS1 (Y9) has never had a single detention and we have never had any complaints about his behaviour, but he was put on report for a week last term because the teachers (correctly) observed that he was beginning to make less effort and becoming less engaged in lessons. Being on report helped him to regain his focus.

You condone her refusing to go to detention? That wod be enough to put her on report for refusing to follow instructions.