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for those with very able but wildly underachieving DC

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willthecreamcometothetop · 16/02/2014 17:43

i despaired of my able DS ever achieving his full potential. He underacieved in GCSE's and A levels. although on paper without any knowledge of his potential his grades were certainly more than respectable but they should have been stellar with his high IQ and acagemic ability. whilst doing GCSEs and A levels he questioned continuallytheir value time and time again and refused to really work. no amount of bribery or cajoling worked. DS now at uni and has found his groove, he is hitting those 1st's and working to potential. i guess what i am saying to all those frustraed parents who think 'why are you wasting all that talent' the cream does eventually come to the top!

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willthecreamcometothetop · 16/02/2014 18:09

he got to uni because at the end of the day he is bright and got good but not the best results with very little work. I have and i lie not a folder in my inbox of about 200 emails that are from his teachers all saying in different ways 'when WILL DS do some work!?!" I nagged and nagged because at least it felt that I was doing something but it was to no avail. He and I know many other boys hate being told what to do and when and how to revise. However something must have gone in as he is now doing it his way andwell.

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lljkk · 16/02/2014 17:55

but how did he get to Uni and do you think he's on a course that's below his potential?

I'm just aiming for GCSEs good enough to get into 6th form at the moment, but not sure DS will even go to 6th form.

Shallishanti · 16/02/2014 17:52

I can second this- DS actually 'woke up' about half a term before a levels - and started asking my opinion on his essays!- went to uni, did well, now doing a 2nd (vocational) degree
It is incredibly frustrating though, my sympathies to anyone in this situation, tis very true that you can take a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.