year 7 home alone after school

It will be fine.
What you need to do in between now and then is let her have her own key and let her let herself in on a regular basis - all those little things like knowing which way to turn the key, the fact that you might have to jiggle it in the lock, or pull the door towards you a bit are all things that it helps if they are 2nd nature by the time she starts secondary.
Also, get her used to being on her own when you go out somewhere perhaps at the weekend, or the evenings you go to dd2's Parents Evenings, or other meetings, so she's used to being there on her own, and sometimes once it's dark.
Let her draw the curtains (if you want her to), and decide how comfortable you are with her making a cuppa or some hot chocolate if she comes in soaking wet one day. Gradually talk about "What would you do if...." - could be can't find her key / a friend asks her to go round to theirs / she got to the house and the door had been broken / she got in the house and the kitchen was flooded / the heating hadn't come on / her phone was out of charge or lost / etc.... and agree strategies / emergency things to do (without piling this all on her the week before she starts when she might be feeling nervous anyway).

I think 11 is fine to be left alone. You just need a couple of rules so that she understands about keeping herself and the house safe. Children learn to be responsible by adults showing some trust. Keeping them supervised til the age of 14 is foolish. Good grief, not expecting to go back in time, but my grandad was working at the pit at the age of 13.

If she is worried at all or finds it a bit boring does she have a local library on the way home? My friend's dd goes there and does her homework using the library computers on her way home, meaning that she can relax properly later on.

My dd did from year 7, couple of evenings a week. Normally until 5pm, but sometimes till 6:30pm.

She's sensible and I trust her. Initially she wasn't supposed to leave the house but she she kind of broke that rule. But did leave me notes saying where shed gone, had taken her phone with her and locked the door. So now she's allowed down the park with her mates.

It helps that we're in a fairly small village and everyone knows everyone. She's never been lonely. When she is home alone she's busy minecrafting or playing ipad games. She's also left all day twice a week in the holidays.

It obviously depends on the child but I think we are all a bit paranoid about this. Most 11 year olds should be fine. I can' t be the only 80's latch key kid.

This all sounds like a good plan.

These child protection schemes are always totally unrealistic. They make you suspect the organisers have either never known any teenagers at all or have only known unusually vulnerable teenagers (e.g. in foster care).

If no child under 14 is to be left alone ever, how do we account for the fact that there is no childcare provision for secondary school children in most of the country? That secondary schools expect children to make their way to and from school unsupervised? That on field trips secondary schools expect children to be able to move around independently? That most secondary school children would be expected to go to the shops and cinemas on their own?

My 13yo went to Belgium in the autumn. Part of the trip involved moving around the town centre in a Belgian town in small groups; the school specifically explained that this was part of their learning. How could that possibly be safer than sitting in your own home watching the telly?

And that's why I trust him - he is sensible , informs me if anything changes, and can be sensible about his own health even.

DS1 made himself a ham sandwich as he was starving. He rang me to tell me so. He also rang me 10 minutes later to inform me that the ham sandwich had bought a return ticket...

He made himself some diyoralyte and went back to bed!

Year 7 seems to be a big turning point for leaving them on their own. Firstly, is she happy to be on her own? I'm a bit paranoid, but I'd want my daughter to give me a quick call to say she had arrived home safely and locked the door.

Depends on the maturity of the child and how much you prepare her for the unknown. I'd be comfortable with it as long as I knew I could get back home relatively quickly in an emergency. My DDs best-friend's sister is in Year 6 and she can't be left alone for more than 2 minutes so it wouldn't be an option for her.

My Y6 is fine for a short while when I go to pick up older siblings. The rules are clear: no microwaves/ovens/kettles, no friends around until I'm back, no answering the door, and if the phone rings, unless it's someone she knows, mum's in the bath!

It's absolutely fine.

I wouldn't be happy with this for my dc but I agree that it depends on the child. You'll also need to set some rules for her having friends coming home with her (or not), will she be allowed to use the internet or only tv, will she have to ring you (landline) to confirm she's got home ok - things like that.

Really does depend on the child. My DD let herself in from school from yr 7 and did homework etc until we got in, she's sensible knows the rules about answering the door, where to go in an emergency and keep her phone charged. You may find that your school runs after school activities or they can go to the library to do homework, at least 3 days a week my daughter does this.

I'm not sure what the rules of your kids club are but if you intend allowing her to leave a bit early to get used to being alone, they would still want an adult to sign her out, every club I've ever used wouldn't let an unaccompanied child leave.

As long as she is happy it is fine. I imagine that most children that age would prefer it to any alternatives.

I have one like that couthy, more responsible at 11 than dd was at 13.
I was happy for him to come home alone in year 7. Dd took a bit more coaching tbh but she managed it, ds2 will be fine next year to be at home first for about an hour.

There's no magic age that they become able to cope with these things tbh, it's really dependent on the child themselves.

Depends on how sensible the child is. I would be fine leaving DS1 alone in this situation, he is 11yo, in Y7. However, I highly doubt that I could do the same with 10yo DS2 when he is in Y7. You ne ed to make an informed decision based upon THAT child's capabilities.

DS1 was classed as Fraser competent in a Family Court at 9yo, though, has an IQ of 134, and is VERY sensible - without being asked, it occurs to him to text me if his bus home from school is running more than 10 minutes late. He can use a microwave and the oven to cook himself a snack, he knows my mobile number off by heart, and he can quickly respond to even emergency situations. (He has had to in the past due to my epilepsy).

DS2 is silly, jumps around and ends up hurting himself, can't make himself a sandwich at 10yo, and often answers the door despite being told not to when I'm IN the house. Goodness knows what he would do if he was on his own!

So it is really down to each individual child. If you feel uneasy about it, then chances are that you aren't SURE that your DC is 'ready' to be left alone. I had terrible misgivings about leaving my DD when she was 13, I had no such misgivings about leaving DS1 at 11.

In fact, due to appointments, the only time I can food shop this week is this morning. DS1 is off school with D&V. He will have the home phone and mobile in his bedroom, and will text me if he feels any worse. I can trust him to take the correct dose of medicine if he has a temperature, which he checks carefully with a thermometer first, and texts me for advice... It is down to the fact that DS1 was born with a cardigan and slippers that I feel safe trusting him at home alone.

Just set the ground rules re. strangers at door, which neighbours to use for help and things he is not allowed to do whilst on his own.

Our DD had this scenario once a week in Year 7 and it was actually really good for her. She coped one winters night with coming home to a dark house with no power - and had the sense to just lock the house and go to a neighbours, who was also in the dark but at least she wasnt doing that 12 year old thing of trying to fix it!

My dd never had an hour of homework to do in yr 7

My 11 year old is more than capable of doing this and does get on with his homework.

My friend's 11 year old cannot be left for 10 minutes!

I think this is fine. In fact I'm considering something similar with my DD who is younger.

Dh recently attended seminar on child protection and said they said 14 was the recommended age to be left alone at home, and at age 12 not to be home alone at all.

I think it is a good step towards independence - but any tips on getting a Y7 do to 'homework for an hour' would be greatly appreciated .

I presume she is happy with the arrangement?