Is it right to make our children study for GCSE'S?

What shooting said

op, you may be relaxed, but the real world doesnt work that way. Employers want qualifications to evidence a persons intelligence and work ethic. They also want work to be done in a timely manner. Ten hours a day surfing the social media isnt acceptable in the vast majority of jobs. Perhaps you need to rethink your parenting strategy. Are you trying to make things easy for yourself, or preparing your dd for real life.

I really hope this op is a joke, if not it makes me feel profoundly depressed .

Well given both my DDs when they were 15 took great glee in challenging every boundary I put in place, I hate to think what they would have got up to if I had not imposed any boundaries. At the end of it all my older DD after years of saying I was sooooo annoying, the strictest mother in the world etc. etc. admitted that she would have hated to have been one of those girls whose parents let them do what they wanted. It didn't make them happy.

Seems a bit tragic of your DD is in front of a screen until the wee small hours, has it occurred to you it might be a sign she is not happy? Or that what she is doing on there might make her vulnerable, do you have any idea what she is actually doing on there?

As parents it is not our job to be cool, popular, or to avoid upsetting or antagonising our offspring. It is our job to be the sad losers that make them feel loved and confidant by protecting them and guiding them and giving them the skills and opportunities to lead fulfilling lives and having respect for themselves and others. Leaving them vulnerable to making mistakes that may affect the rest of their lives isn't being a cool parent, it's being a selfish lazy one.

OP, you're not cool nor are you fullfilling your duties as a mom.

You have essentially stopped parenting and are expecting a pat on the back (or a tennaged high five).

Grow Up.

"I don't think endless study is good for children and hate the way schools encourage them to take so many, especially as more than 5 aren't necessary. "

I'm not sure about this thread, but just in case anyone is reading this and picks up this point, it is not necessarily true- IT DEPENDS WHAT YOU WANT TO DO NEXT!!!!!!!!!!

I haven’t heard of such a ridiculous question like that asked in the heading for a very long time. Worse still, the message that followed was absolutely out of this world!

Yes they need to study.

In ten years time she will not thank you for being the cool mum.

You don't need to go overboard BUT what you are describing sounds ridiculous.

Oh come on. I have a 15 year old dd.

The only way she could spend 10 hours a day online would be if she went to school, came straight home and didnt eat or sleep. She is at school for 7 hours a day.

Does your dd not go out with her friends, go to the cinema, go shopping, have any other interests other than 10 hours of Internet per day?

that would concern me tbh

Heaven help her when she is faced with something where she does need to put some work in,

OP

Are you in fact a 15 year old and this is how you wish your mum would behave?

How does she get in 10 hours of screen time in a day?

I think there's a balance to be struck.

In an ideal world, children who were more or less a certainty to do A levels should be able to skip GCSEs altogether. That way they would get more teaching and learning time instead of endlessly doing exams.

However, we don't live in an ideal world, and GCSe results do matter because they define the future choices our DCs have. So I will be limiting screen time, and I will be encouraging study, because I have two very intelligent DDs who need to make the most of their futures. Their focus will be academic, but that is unimportant - no matter what your talents are, you will need to shine at 16 if you want to progress in that area.

Endless study is bad, and I would definitely encourage leisure time - if only because leisure time refreshes the mind and makes the study that does happen more effective - but the entirely laid back approach does not sit well with me.

Hello OP

I am interested in your philosophy and saw your post on not limiting screen time.
I don't think endless study is good for children and hate the way schools encourage them to take so many, especially as more than 5 aren't necessary.
How does she manage 10 hours screen time in addition to school?

She also spends about 10 hours a day on the internet, on twitter, tumblr, and other sites. I never annoy her, I always let her do her own thing, as I am not that kind of parent