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Would you make your DC revise on Christmas Eve ?

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lilolilmanchester · 27/12/2013 20:24

Genuine question ... Friend's dd was not allowed at Christmas Eve party (which was also celebration of close friend's significant birthday ) because she had to revise for GCSE mocks in a couple of weeks time. I realise the exams are important, but was made to feel like a bad parent for asking why she couldn't have Christmas Eve off... Wouldn't have made my dd miss Christmas Eve/ big party ..... But maybe I've got it wrong?

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MrsSteptoe · 28/12/2013 10:44

I referred to this in passing in another thread, so soz if you see both: but is there any evidence for the idea that DCs may do better in maths and reasoning exams than practice papers?
DS is doing 11+ in January (he'll be 11 in March) and I keep hoping that maybe he'll get a few extra marks just because he's in an exam room and there's nothing to do except focus, IYSWIM. He tends to be a bit fidgety here, and keeps shouting out "I'm half way through, Mum", "I'm on question 20, Mum". He's hovering around the 70-75% mark on maths, he can be around the same mark on reasoning but he's had some spectacular crashes. I know these aren't stellar marks.

I suspect English practice papers are a more accurate indicator of what he'll do on the day.
I guess the answer is that some will do better, some will do worse because of the pressure, but I'd be interested to know if there's much evidence of DCs exceeding expectation when they get to The Big Day!

MrsSteptoe · 28/12/2013 10:38

I'd love to be able to draw a concrete conclusion from the fact that DS did a maths practice paper (can't remember the school) on Boxing Day morning, having had Christmas Day off, and got a higher score than usual - actually getting towards the holy grail of 80%. But it's not exactly empirical evidence, and no doubt the next one will be littered with daft mistakes and gaps. I'm pinning my hopes to the possibility that he'll rise to the occasion a bit in the exams because there's nothing to do but focus, IYSWIM. Here, he tends to be a bit drifty.

lljkk · 28/12/2013 10:37

Exactly how do you "make" them revise?
I don't understand how forced learning works.

curlew · 28/12/2013 10:34

"And anyway, who revises for mocks?"

People who want to do well in the real things, sadly.

ErrolTheDragon · 28/12/2013 10:28

I think there are a few parents out there (and a lot in Hong Kong etc) who need to be reminded of the truth that 'all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy'. There's research supporting this old adage nowadays.

In the group Kenlee cited, would be interesting if one could analyse the cause and effect of the smartest kids being the ones allowed out to see a movie instead of grafting.

A couple of hours a day most days through the hols is OK; missing a close friend's birthday party (whether xmas eve or not) really is screwed up priorities.

LIZS · 28/12/2013 10:22

another poster commented on their Year 7 doing revision every day.

MollyBerry · 28/12/2013 10:21

It's not year 7 exams - it's GCSE mocks!
I still don't think anyone shoudl be 'forced' to revise on Christmas Eve - some gentle pushing the rest of the time might be of use though

LIZS · 28/12/2013 10:20

ds did some revision each day until 23rd and while travelling on 25th for his GCSE mocks and will do so pretty much everyday until they start.

curlew · 28/12/2013 10:20

2 hours a day for year 7 exams????????

Coconutty · 28/12/2013 10:19

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 28/12/2013 10:18

Blimey, poor kid. Surely it is up to them when/if they revise.

And anyway, who revises for mocks?

TheArticFunky · 28/12/2013 10:15

Do year 7 exams even matter?

2 hours a day over the Christmas holidays surely he will be burnt out by the time he reaches GCSEs.

monet3 · 28/12/2013 08:23

No I wouldn't.

I have a friend who made her DS revise on holiday last August for exams this coming June. He has missed all his friends parties this year also. He is 12 !!!

Att100 · 28/12/2013 00:32

aah but some children may be more "malleable" than others...though I imagine teenagers much less so....suspect there's more to this story anyway than meets the eye.

NoComet · 28/12/2013 00:28

I love this idea that parents have that their DCs are revising?

Not staring into space, watching Dr Who, writing fan fiction or simply fast asleep.

IME suggesting too much time closeted with books just increases devious avoidance. DD1 is very sensible if gently reminded and a horror if nagged (just like her mother Grin)

Att100 · 27/12/2013 23:33

he should do well then Tululah....deserves to.

Tuhlulah · 27/12/2013 23:31

DS in Year 7 has exams in January and has been doing 2 hours every day except Christmas Day. (20 days, 10 subjects, 2 hours per subject in half hour slots).

Kenlee · 27/12/2013 23:30

Well my daughter came back to HK after already taken her exams for Christmas and out of a class of 30 from primary only 6 of her friends would meet to watch a film...The others were either having to go to tutorials or having private tuition. The pressure on children to succeed is enormous.

Although the 6 that did come out are the smartest out of the group and don't really need the intensive tutoring. Although I suspect one did sneak out...

I just hope you had a great party without her

Att100 · 27/12/2013 22:45

yeah and you didn't "force" him so that's fine ....the things people complain about in the West....these really are First World problems aren't they .... I think of all the child labour and kids scavenging on dumpsites or kids in Syria where there is polio going around ...that's deprivation not some kid swotting up for some exams on Xmas Eve. Get a grip y'all.

MrsSteptoe · 27/12/2013 22:37

I had DS do about 90 minutes practice papers in the morning. He's got 11+ entrance exams in January and things haven't really worked out as we hoped from the progress point of view. He was a star about it. But we've arranged things around invitations that he received so he doesn't miss out on anything.

Att100 · 27/12/2013 22:33

you may not be apprised of all the facts, I mean.

Att100 · 27/12/2013 22:32

depends on what's at stake and how far behind she is and what else went on prior to that ...I don't think you can really judge and you maybe apprised of all the facts. I also imagine it's pretty hard to "force" a teenager to do anything if they really don't want to.

bruffin · 27/12/2013 22:29

Ds revised in the morning on xmas eve. He has A2 mocks. He did more today

bruffin · 27/12/2013 22:29

Ds revised in the morning on xmas eve. He has A2 mocks. He did more today

bruffin · 27/12/2013 22:29

Ds revised in the morning on xmas eve. He has A2 mocks. He did more today